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Rohini’s Blog

He Said, She Said: Denying Restorative Cuddles Is Bad For Rapport

Angus shares how invisible thinking can be at times related to low moods, and how easy it is for conflict to ensue. Rohini speaks to the humanness of our moods even when we know we create our experience from our own thoughts, and acknowledges that it can be hard to see thought as the culprit of upset in real time.   Also, click here for the link to the upcoming workshop "Relationship Essentials" Angus and I are facilitating with Carrie and Mark Sisson.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love...

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Sex and Marriage: Go Together Like a Horse and Carriage?

Recently my husband Angus and I did our Friday Vlog about sex. He was reticent to talk about our experience in this area, but I managed to convince him to do it since this is a subject that is challenging for many couples, especially couples in long-term relationships no matter what their sexual orientation. Sex often comes up as an issue for our clients even if it has nothing to do with the coaching they signed up for.   For us, it is an area of great learning. I can see now how the quality and richness of our sex life is a litmus...

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He Said, She Said: Let’s Talk About Sex

Much to Angus' chagrin sex is the topic of this week's Vlog. We discuss how we were both able to overcome the polarization we experienced in this area of our relationship.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couple's retreats that support the deepening of connection and understanding. We work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. ...

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We All Draw From the Same Well of Infinite Potential

One of my clients asked me recently if I believed everyone has the same capacity for empathy? I believe we do. At our core we are all loving beings with the same infinite potential of our formless nature. We may not, however, all share it in the same way. I realized he asked the question because not everybody demonstrates the same amount of empathy. In fact, even on a personal level we don’t consistently show the same amount of empathy in each situation. We all have different levels of being aware of and experiencing our true nature, but this doesn’t mean...

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He Said, She Said: We Aren’t Out of the Woods Yet Regarding Taxes

Sometimes it really looks like circumstances create our experience. Angus and I are both struggling with that. But knowing that our experience comes from inside of us no matter how it looks the other way, helps us to have a cushion from our distressed thinking, and look in the direction of equanimity rather than create more imbalance for ourselves -- even when it comes to the government and taxes!   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couple's retreats...

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Success is the By-Product of a Clear State of Mind

Barbara Patterson and I are launching our second Mastermind this week. We will be exploring with the group how to take their businesses to the next level in a way that is aligned with their Authentic Selves, and naturally fun and inspiring. One of the themes that emerged from the enrollment conversations I had for the group was an inquiry into what success really is. What was clear for many of the people I spoke to is that success involves being able to enjoy life and to have the spaciousness and freedom to do projects and activities they want to. No...

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He Said, She Said: Money Conversations — No Longer Kryptonite For Our Relationship

Angus and I relax after getting our taxes in, and reminisce over how far we have come from the days of getting into fights over the accounts. Not to say there isn't more progress to be made. Angus seems to think laughing at my control freak coping mechanisms would be even better.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couple's retreats that support the deepening of connection and understanding. We work with couples who are struggling and couples who...

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We are Not Human or Spiritual — We Are Both

Last week I wrote about spiritual bypass. That happens when we place judgment on our human experience and see it as inferior to our spiritual nature. I then started to think about what human bypass would look like. It occurred to me that a human bypass is when we forget that we are multidimensional beings who are the creators of our reality. It is when we forget that we bring the formless essence of our true nature into form and create reality moment to moment. For example, when I identify with my story, and forget I am also the infinite potential...

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Experience Greater Peace of Mind by Understanding How Harmless Negative Emotions Are

"Spiritual bypass" is a term coined by the psychologist John Welwood. In an interview with Tina Fossil, Welwood defines a spiritual bypass as when the goal of spiritual awakening is used to try "to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it." He warns that this "leads to a conceptual, one-sided kind of spirituality where one pole of life is elevated at the expense of its opposite: Absolute truth is favored over relative truth, the impersonal over the personal, emptiness over form, transcendence over embodiment, and detachment over...

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