Navigating Difficult Conversations in Relationships
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Today, we’ll explore difficult conversations in relationships and provide valuable insights to make them easier.
In the early stages of our relationship, we realized that discussions about money triggered emotional responses within us that had nothing to do with money. A lighthearted incident with Angus’ accountant comparing Angus’ financial knowledge to the accountant’s cat, where the cat came out ahead, provided some foreshadowing for this being a difficult topic. And Rohini’s encounter with a bailiff due to Angus’unpaid parking tickets reinforced this. So our early conversations about money were filled with judgments, criticism, insecurities, fears, and desire for validation.
Fortunately, we learned the importance of recognizing and playing to our strengths in service to relationship harmony. But we could only make these practical money decisions when we had clarity.
Slowing down allowed us to be present with our feelings and aware of our state of mind. Listening to the feedback of our emotions and recognizing the state of our nervous system regulation allowed us to take better care of ourselves so we could avoid taking out our emotional pain on our partner.
It became easier to see that the source of our suffering was not them but the misunderstandings in our consciousness. Having perspective on this allows us to be with feelings and let them move through rather than discharging upset on our partner–eventually, clarity returns.
Being open and vulnerable with ourselves also opens us to experience the truth of who we are beyond our conditioning. This is what wakes us up from our limiting beliefs. It also makes it possible to show up to our relationships with an open heart, and all conversations become opportunities for deeper intimacy and understanding.
Originally published on https://www.therewilders.org/blog/navigating-difficult-conversations-in-relationships.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “The Rewilders.” Listen to their podcast “Rewilding Love.” They believe too many good relationships fall apart because couples give up thinking their relationship problems can’t be solved. Many couples don’t know how to navigate low moods, conflict, and emotional reactivity. In this season of the Rewilding Love Podcast, Rohini and Angus help a couple on the brink of divorce due to conflict. Angus and Rohini love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and well-being. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples’ intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love.
Rohini is the author of the ebook Marriage, and they are co-founders of The 29-Day Rewilding Experience and The Rewilding Community. You can also follow Angus and Rohini Ross on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. To learn more about their work visit: TheRewilders.org.