Coping Mechanisms | Rohini Ross

Awakening to Presence: Healing, Feeling, and the Magic of Being

It has been a while since you have heard from me. I have been dealing with some health challenges after taking a while to recover from Covid. And Angus had knee replacement surgery, so I've been supporting him in his recovery. He is doing really well. The doctor said he is ahead of 90% of his patients at this stage, so his commitment to physiotherapy is paying off.   My health needs and supporting Angus have forced me to slow down.   In slowing down, I noticed a layer of numbness being stripped away. I became aware of a level of dissociation from my...

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The Freedom to Embrace Wholeness However YOU Want

Angus and I did a psilocybin journey recently as part of our ongoing exploration of consciousness. I used to be very judgmental about plant medicine. Coming from a strong indoctrination in yogic and meditation traditions, I saw psychedelics as cheating. I then became involved in a more Christian-based spiritual group that expressly prohibited plant medicine, including marijuana, but not alcohol, interestingly enough. However, during this time, I was introduced to plant medicine and participated in a ceremony where I took a heart-opener. As a novice, the guide gave me the starter potion.   I had a blissful time. I experienced myself as a...

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There Is No Safety to Be Found in Relationships

Angus wrote what turned out to be a somewhat controversial Instagram post a few weeks ago where he said, “Your partner cannot make you feel anything.”   And I received a question recently asking what does safety look like in relationships?   So I thought it would be helpful to make a clarification between the psychological perspective and the spiritual perspective. There is so much focus on psychotherapy in Western culture that this viewpoint has become embedded in our worldview and the dominant cultural narrative so that it becomes part of the invisible lens through which we see things. This makes it seem like...

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Unlocking the Power Within: Transforming Your Relationship and Embracing Infinite Possibilities

Angus and I interviewed Ankush Jain recently for our Rewilders Community, and he reminded us how people could give up too easily. In life and relationships, we can get used to an unhealthy normal. We often don't see where we have given up hope due to our inability to see possibilities even though the potential is there. Our conditioning clouds our judgment, and we trust the lens through which we see life rather than recognizing that we don't see the whole reality with all its possibilities.   This made me think about relationships and how couples can feel they are in a...

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Breaking the Chains of Toxic Masculinity

Enjoy our latest vlog!   Welcome to our vlog! In this episode, we dive deep into the value of vulnerability for intimacy in relationships. Inspired by a recent conversation on toxic masculinity, we explore how societal conditioning can hinder our ability to be vulnerable, especially for men. We share our personal experiences and reflect on the impact of suppressing emotions.   Join us as Angus recounts a poignant incident from his past that challenged his perception of vulnerability. Discover how a powerful moment of vulnerability and the subsequent compassionate response of others changed his perspective. We unpack the concept of toxic masculinity and its...

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Being Kind to Yourself is Good for You and Your Relationship

The Inner Narrator and Its Impact   You are probably aware of the voice in your head, the inner narrator commenting on you and your life. Rather than being in the moment, it judges the moment. This human proclivity does not mean something is wrong with you, and it is not something to fix or change about yourself. However, I have found it helpful to be mindful of the quality of thinking it shares with me.   Recently I haven't been feeling well for an extended period. Due to a mild autoimmune disorder flare-up, I haven't been my usual self with my normal energy...

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Building Stronger Relationships Through Universal Understanding

I listened to this episode of the Emerald podcast, The Revolution Will Not Be Psychologized and loved the distinction Joshua Schrei makes between western psychology and other communal forms of healing. This aligns with The Rewilders' view that personal healing and relationship transformation comes from a deeper understanding of our impersonal nature rather than delving into the individual content of our thoughts, feelings, and experiences and trying to improve ourselves that way.   Our focus is to support our clients with having a deeper experience of their true nature. That experience is the real source of transformation and healing. Rather than delving into...

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Repressed Emotions vs. Repressing Emotions & Healing

There is a difference between the idea of repressed emotions and the action of consciously or unconsciously repressing emotions. It is unclear what repressed emotions are and where they are found, if anywhere in the body. But we all have probably experienced behavioral habits we use to try and resist our emotions when uncomfortable feelings arise. I have used various techniques to try and feel better, some that I thought were good for me, and some that I knew were bad, but they all made sense when I felt unsafe with my feelings.   This resistance to overwhelming emotional experiences is a...

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The Gift of Taking Things Personally

It feels good when we don’t take things personally in relationships. We enjoy the feelings of inner freedom and goodwill when we feel compassion for our struggling partners when their behavior misses the mark. We enjoy the feelings of internal stability when we are undisturbed by our partners' emotional dysregulation and feel internally stable. This feels good, and it feels bad when we take things personally. We can misinterpret the bad feelings to mean something is wrong with us, or we are doing things wrong. We can judge ourselves as not good enough when we take our partner’s behavior personally,...

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A Very Happy Made-Up New Year to You!

I've noticed a lovely trend in the emails coming into my inbox at this time of year reminding me to take it easy.   The feedback is to go at your own pace. Listen to your inner feedback regarding your boundaries. Slow down. Rest! Remember that time is a construct. Don't let something made up cause you to feel a sense of urgency and make yourself rush. There is no objective time, so you can't be behind. Yes, you can miss deadlines, appointments, and flights, but no matter what, you are always doing the best that you can, and you are more...

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