Angus Gets Hot and Bothered and Thinks He Has a Fever

Our hearts go out to everyone who is impacted by COVID-19. We send love and wish everyone good health and safety during this time. Things got more real for us when Angus found out his cousin was on a ventilator due to the illness. To make matters worse this sent him into an internal tailspin of worry. Fortunately, after his fever scare, he settled and saw what he was doing. We hope this Vlog reminds you to look within for your peace of mind and security, now and always. Of course, we all get pulled into thinking we need things...

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Seeing Psychological Innocence Is Not The Same As Being A Doormat

There can be confusion between seeing someone's psychological innocence and condoning their behavior. The two are often conflated. This Vlog hopefully clarifies this and if it doesn't please leave questions in the comments below.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state...

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You Can’t Shout Someone Into Wellbeing

Angus and I have been moody buggers this week!   We are sharing our experience of losing the plot and finding our way again as a means to normalize the experience and to point to the temporary nature of this kind of experience.   This week for whatever reason we got gripped. It all started over soup. I was working late and Angus kindly made us soup for dinner. All good, until I didn’t like the soup and didn’t want to eat it. I am not usually a picky eater, but for some reason, the texture of the soup turned my stomach.   Angus took this...

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Toy Drive & Taking Things Personally

Our friend Paige is helping coordinate a toy drive for the 100 children at the San Fernando Valley Refugee Children's Center, in North Hills, CA   Many of the unaccompanied minors were in detention centers at the border and are hoping to get asylum. The little kids are with a parent and they have all escaped gangs and potential murder, back in Central America.   The Center: https://www.noestassolonorthhills.org   Here is the link for the toy drive wish list. When you order, please choose this address when it gives the prompt: Kelly Radinsky's Gift Registry. Click here for the link.   Regarding the Vlog, understand that it is normal...

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Understanding How The Mind Works, Inner Freedom, and Loving Relationships

Understanding How The Mind Works, Inner Freedom, and Loving Relationships -- what do they all have in common?   Last week’s blog focused on getting comfortable with the ups and downs of the human experience and how that benefits relationships. I scheduled my blog in my newsletter to send on Monday morning, and for the second time, in a not very long period of time, my website went down on a Monday so none of the links in my newsletter worked. This came after a very challenging Father’s Day with one daughter saying she does not feel supported by Angus and me,...

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Being Okay With Your Feelings is the Best Thing You Can Do For Your Relationship

Being okay with your feelings is the best thing you can do for your relationship and all areas of your life.   But how do you do that?   It seems like we innocently live out our beliefs no matter how faulty they might be, and we are at the effect of them emotionally.   How do you get more freedom?   I spent many years of my life searching for that answer first in yoga and meditation practices then in various psychotherapies. I would diligently practice various techniques to try to have less emotional suffering and to experience more inner peace. But it was such hard work....

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Impossible to Possible: Easier Than You Think

Whether it is trying to solve a crossword puzzle or reconnect in your relationship, the solution comes from the same place: a new thought, a fresh realization, a new way of seeing things. What looks impossible from a sped up, stirred up mind, contracted mind is obvious and common sense when you look at it with fresh eyes and a clear, relaxed, open mind.   Understanding the contracting and expanding nature of your mind makes life so much easier. You don’t need to control or manage yourself when you have a glimpse of how the mind works. With understanding, it is easier...

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Following Inclinations and Christmas Tree Disposal

Angus having to dispose of our Christmas tree in a creative way because he missed the green bin helped him to experience the value of taking action on his inclinations even when he thought they weren’t going to go anywhere. I love that our inner promptings guide us in big and small ways. Often times our intellect tries to talk us out of taking action because it can’t make sense of it. But there is a deeper wisdom at play that we don’t have to figure out. It is only through taking action, moving forward, and gaining momentum that we...

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Letting Life Live You: Less Suffering More Possibility

There has been a lot going on recently. Being evacuated and not knowing if the wildfire was going to spread to our neighborhood. The death of a client. Getting sick. Feeling the loss of our dog Bella as at the one year anniversary of her death. But I wasn’t suffering. Even when I was experiencing excruciating pain with a UTI, I noticed I could be with the pain and not suffer.  Previously it would have taken much less for me to be suffering.   There is a quote by Haruki Murakami related to marathon running where he says, “Pain is inevitable, suffering...

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Freedom from Suffering

As soon as I feel the internal pressure to be special or better than, I know I am feeling the opposite -- not special, not good enough. Feelings of unworthiness can be so painful, and there are so many ways to try and escape these feelings. Trying to prove our worthiness by being better than. Numbing out from the pain by using coping mechanisms.   Psychology tells us the problem is an issue that needs to be resolved, but there is no gold to be mined there only an infinite amount of issues that will need fixing. Instead, less suffering is the...

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