You Can't Shout Someone Into Wellbeing | Rohini Ross
You Can't Shout Someone Into Wellbeing

You Can’t Shout Someone Into Wellbeing

Angus and I have been moody buggers this week!


We are sharing our experience of losing the plot and finding our way again as a means to normalize the experience and to point to the temporary nature of this kind of experience.


This week for whatever reason we got gripped. It all started over soup. I was working late and Angus kindly made us soup for dinner. All good, until I didn’t like the soup and didn’t want to eat it. I am not usually a picky eater, but for some reason, the texture of the soup turned my stomach.


Angus took this personally and the good feeling between us fell away. By the morning, I was in a low mood and had globalized the incident to mean something about our relationship. Angus just wanted to get the good feeling back and tried to coerce me there. The more he tried, the more I resisted and the angrier he got. What a mess!


The good news is we both eventually woke up. I saw the wisdom of not engaging. He saw the wisdom in not trying to force a good feeling. When we saw that we instantaneously dropped back in a feeling of wellbeing within ourselves. The relationship took care of itself from there. There wasn’t anything to fix. There wasn’t anything to do. We were no longer polarized and back in the feeling of love.


Relationships can get wild at times, but even when we feel lost in the wilderness, we are never disconnected from our natural state of love. We will eventually stop resisting the gravitational pull of our true nature and come back home.


Angus & Rohini Ross are “the Rewilders”. They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1), and they are co-founders of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can also subscribe to Rohini’s weekly blog that includes their weekly Vlog on her website,

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