relationship advice | Rohini Ross

Breaking the Chains of Toxic Masculinity

Enjoy our latest vlog!   Welcome to our vlog! In this episode, we dive deep into the value of vulnerability for intimacy in relationships. Inspired by a recent conversation on toxic masculinity, we explore how societal conditioning can hinder our ability to be vulnerable, especially for men. We share our personal experiences and reflect on the impact of suppressing emotions.   Join us as Angus recounts a poignant incident from his past that challenged his perception of vulnerability. Discover how a powerful moment of vulnerability and the subsequent compassionate response of others changed his perspective. We unpack the concept of toxic masculinity and its...

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How to Stop Unresolved Trauma from Derailing Your Relationship

Enjoy our latest vlog! [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiVXdkcAYOM[/embed]   Trauma has no expiration date - it can manifest in surprising ways, especially in relationships. Our latest vlog explores how unresolved issues can cause communication breakdowns. Watch as we share an example from our lives and delve into the internal experiences that can trigger these reactions. Let us know what you think - have you experienced anything similar? Have you ever experienced unresolved trauma impacting your relationships?   We'd love to hear from you in the comments. And don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter below so you never miss an episode of our vlog. Thank you for watching!   Originally...

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Judgements Help Reveal Our Blind Spots

Enjoy our latest vlog!   If we can remain open to our experience, we can learn a great deal about our blind spots and how to heal. In this month's vlog, Rohini shares an example of when she felt disrespected, undervalued, and overburdened by Angus. However, upon reflection, she realized her upset was not caused by Angus's request. Her lack of neutrality reflected her own judgments and how she relates to herself. This was a blind spot for her. By taking a moment to experience her feelings rather than react from them, Rohini held space for herself emotionally and was then able...

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Self-Judgment and Hot Button Topics

Hot button topics usually result in conflict when they are discussed. Anger is often used to deflect away from the subject. Finances used to be a hot button topic for us. Angus shares how his self-judgment and ensuing shame made it very difficult to discuss in a reasonable way. And Rohini would usually take Angus's anger personally. The antidote was for us to be vulnerable with each other and so we really understand each other's experiences. And when we weren't able to do that to see each other's psychological innocence, knowing we were each doing the best we could.   Angus &...

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Emotional Intimacy

The ability to experience emotional intimacy in a relationship is a reflection of one's capacity to be open one's own emotional experience. Angus points out that often when we are seeking greater emotional intimacy with someone else it is a misguided attempt to fill the painful void of feeling separate from one's spiritual nature. Relationships are not designed to fill that void and they suffer when unrealistic expectations are placed on them to do so.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them...

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Avoiding Resentment

Resentment nearly destroyed our marriage. Lessons learned are to have the willingness and courage to maintain open and honest communication and to not make assumptions about where that communication will take you. In your vulnerability, you open up to the power of your impersonal nature so your wisdom can guide you beyond the fears of the intellect. This is the realm of possibility and hopefulness. Learning, growth, and change are always possible.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate...

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Saying Yes For An Easy Life

Angus used to take what looked like the easy route by saying yes to Rohini in order to avoid a potential emotional reaction on her part, but it usually still ended in grief and suffering down the road because he wouldn't follow through and Rohini would feel disappointed and dismayed by his disregard for keeping agreements. Have a deeper connection with their wellbeing coming from within helped them both.   When Angus became more connected with his inner wellbeing, he was less concerned about Rohini's emotional reactions, and with Rohini being more connected with her wellbeing she was less emotionally reactive. She...

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The Ego Doesn’t Know When to Stop

Angus points to how easy it is to get sucked in the ego’s desire for more. From the personal view, there is never enough. The ego keeps looking for the pot of gold thinking just one more thing and then I will feel better. It is easy to get caught up in this pattern. Rohini had a sore back and wasn’t feeling well earlier in the week. She recognized how she got enamored with her intellect and forgot to listen to her deeper wisdom that was telling her to relax and slow down. In addition to the constellation of thoughts...

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Navigating Defensiveness In Relationships

Defensiveness is a common occurrence in relationships when one person takes another person's behavior personally. Angus and Rohini had a recent experience where Rohini was angry and Angus got defensive. In the past, this would have resulted in a downward spiral of conflict that could have lasted for days. Instead, it lasted for about ten minutes. The difference this time was Angus was able to witness himself being pulled in two directions. He saw one train of thought telling him to protect himself and remain defensive and another train of thought that was compassionate. The compassionate train won and he was able to see Rohini...

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The Secret Sauce For Relationships

Heartfelt apologies and being able to make up after conflict is the secret sauce that makes relationships resilient and increases intimacy and goodwill. Even though Angus and Rohini were naturally inclined to get over things and move on, Rohini couldn't help herself and brought yet another technique into their relationship. This did not foster goodwill and felt inauthentic. For the secret sauce to work it needs to be genuine and heartfelt.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom...

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