relationships | Rohini Ross

Healing from Heartbreak

Enjoy our latest vlog!   In this vlog, we dive deep into how to recover from a difficult breakup. While most of our clients choose to stay together, we recognize that sometimes ending a relationship is for the highest good. We discuss how people often suffer from misunderstandings about themselves that have them feel unloved and unlovable. We emphasize the importance of feeling the grief that comes with a breakup but caution against getting stuck in the narrative of the relationship ending. Instead, we encourage you to be present with your feelings and the discomfort that arises. Doing so allows you to bring love...

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Navigating Difficult Conversations in Relationships

Enjoy our latest vlog!   Welcome to our vlog! We're excited to try a new filming format that we are going to use for the second season of our podcast.   Today, we'll explore difficult conversations in relationships and provide valuable insights to make them easier.   In the early stages of our relationship, we realized that discussions about money triggered emotional responses within us that had nothing to do with money. A lighthearted incident with Angus' accountant comparing Angus' financial knowledge to the accountant's cat, where the cat came out ahead, provided some foreshadowing for this being a difficult topic. And Rohini's encounter with a...

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Breaking the Chains of Toxic Masculinity

Enjoy our latest vlog!   Welcome to our vlog! In this episode, we dive deep into the value of vulnerability for intimacy in relationships. Inspired by a recent conversation on toxic masculinity, we explore how societal conditioning can hinder our ability to be vulnerable, especially for men. We share our personal experiences and reflect on the impact of suppressing emotions.   Join us as Angus recounts a poignant incident from his past that challenged his perception of vulnerability. Discover how a powerful moment of vulnerability and the subsequent compassionate response of others changed his perspective. We unpack the concept of toxic masculinity and its...

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How to Stop Unresolved Trauma from Derailing Your Relationship

Enjoy our latest vlog! [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiVXdkcAYOM[/embed]   Trauma has no expiration date - it can manifest in surprising ways, especially in relationships. Our latest vlog explores how unresolved issues can cause communication breakdowns. Watch as we share an example from our lives and delve into the internal experiences that can trigger these reactions. Let us know what you think - have you experienced anything similar? Have you ever experienced unresolved trauma impacting your relationships?   We'd love to hear from you in the comments. And don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter below so you never miss an episode of our vlog. Thank you for watching!   Originally...

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Judgements Help Reveal Our Blind Spots

Enjoy our latest vlog!   If we can remain open to our experience, we can learn a great deal about our blind spots and how to heal. In this month's vlog, Rohini shares an example of when she felt disrespected, undervalued, and overburdened by Angus. However, upon reflection, she realized her upset was not caused by Angus's request. Her lack of neutrality reflected her own judgments and how she relates to herself. This was a blind spot for her. By taking a moment to experience her feelings rather than react from them, Rohini held space for herself emotionally and was then able...

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Repressed Emotions vs. Repressing Emotions & Healing

There is a difference between the idea of repressed emotions and the action of consciously or unconsciously repressing emotions. It is unclear what repressed emotions are and where they are found, if anywhere in the body. But we all have probably experienced behavioral habits we use to try and resist our emotions when uncomfortable feelings arise. I have used various techniques to try and feel better, some that I thought were good for me, and some that I knew were bad, but they all made sense when I felt unsafe with my feelings.   This resistance to overwhelming emotional experiences is a...

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The Gift of Taking Things Personally

It feels good when we don’t take things personally in relationships. We enjoy the feelings of inner freedom and goodwill when we feel compassion for our struggling partners when their behavior misses the mark. We enjoy the feelings of internal stability when we are undisturbed by our partners' emotional dysregulation and feel internally stable. This feels good, and it feels bad when we take things personally. We can misinterpret the bad feelings to mean something is wrong with us, or we are doing things wrong. We can judge ourselves as not good enough when we take our partner’s behavior personally,...

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The Importance of Being Able to Say “No” in Your Relationship

Enjoy our latest vlog!   In today's vlog, we discuss the importance of being able to say "No" when it comes to relationships. Setting boundaries with our partner can sometimes be challenging, but it is an essential part of any healthy relationship. When we succumb to our people-pleasing habits or do something we don't want to do to avoid conflict we are not making the self-honoring decision. Not honoring our intuition when it’s saying no will very likely lead to resentment.   Asserting boundaries that are coming forward from our inner wisdom will in all likelihood reduce conflict and increase goodwill. If Wisdom is...

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A Very Happy Made-Up New Year to You!

I've noticed a lovely trend in the emails coming into my inbox at this time of year reminding me to take it easy.   The feedback is to go at your own pace. Listen to your inner feedback regarding your boundaries. Slow down. Rest! Remember that time is a construct. Don't let something made up cause you to feel a sense of urgency and make yourself rush. There is no objective time, so you can't be behind. Yes, you can miss deadlines, appointments, and flights, but no matter what, you are always doing the best that you can, and you are more...

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Rewilding Love with Rohini Ross

Enjoy Rohini's webinar, Rewilding Love, for Sanctuary of Earth.   Just like nature can be rewilded, we, too, can be rewilded back to our natural state of love. Love is who we are at our core. What gets in the way of us experiencing that is the conditioned thinking that we learn because we think it will protect us and help us avoid suffering. Unfortunately, however, it does not help us thrive. Rohini will share how we can overcome our conditioning to be rewilded out of our normal state and back to our natural state of love.   Originally published on https://www.therewilders.org/.   Angus & Rohini...

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