Stress | Rohini Ross

Repressed Emotions vs. Repressing Emotions & Healing

There is a difference between the idea of repressed emotions and the action of consciously or unconsciously repressing emotions. It is unclear what repressed emotions are and where they are found, if anywhere in the body. But we all have probably experienced behavioral habits we use to try and resist our emotions when uncomfortable feelings arise. I have used various techniques to try and feel better, some that I thought were good for me, and some that I knew were bad, but they all made sense when I felt unsafe with my feelings.   This resistance to overwhelming emotional experiences is a...

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The Gift of Taking Things Personally

It feels good when we don’t take things personally in relationships. We enjoy the feelings of inner freedom and goodwill when we feel compassion for our struggling partners when their behavior misses the mark. We enjoy the feelings of internal stability when we are undisturbed by our partners' emotional dysregulation and feel internally stable. This feels good, and it feels bad when we take things personally. We can misinterpret the bad feelings to mean something is wrong with us, or we are doing things wrong. We can judge ourselves as not good enough when we take our partner’s behavior personally,...

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A Very Happy Made-Up New Year to You!

I've noticed a lovely trend in the emails coming into my inbox at this time of year reminding me to take it easy.   The feedback is to go at your own pace. Listen to your inner feedback regarding your boundaries. Slow down. Rest! Remember that time is a construct. Don't let something made up cause you to feel a sense of urgency and make yourself rush. There is no objective time, so you can't be behind. Yes, you can miss deadlines, appointments, and flights, but no matter what, you are always doing the best that you can, and you are more...

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‘Tis the Season of Peace, Goodwill, and Holiday Stress

Angus and our youngest daughter got our Christmas tree last week. I purchased all of the girls stocking stuffers way ahead of time. Even though our daughters are young adults, we all love the Christmas morning ritual of them opening the gifts in their pillowcases. Angus's family used pillowcases rather than stockings. This seemed very practical, so we kept that tradition.   And even though this is the season of peace and goodwill, all of the festivities can come with the experience of extra pressure and holiday stress that can take a toll on health and relationships.   I have experienced internal pressure to...

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Not Taking Low Moods Seriously

We recorded this Vlog later in the day because Angus and I got ensconced in a conversation that turned out to be unnecessary because all I was doing was taking Angus' low mood seriously. This made sense from my low mood state. Eventually, Angus realized that he wasn't rational and encouraged me not to pay attention to what he was saying. What a relief! In the Vlog, he reminds us that when we are in a low mood and suffering looking to the impersonal provides relief. We forget about the personal and feel the peace that is beyond our troubled...

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Having A One Track Mind

Angus has a tendency of having a one-track mind that can be very effective at getting things done. He gets a bit between his teeth and doesn't stop, but when it turns into ruminating it doesn't work out so well.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild...

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The Tale of Niko and The Coyote

Angus went on a wild Niko chase and got scratched up in the process. He sees now how he ignored the whisper of his wisdom in favor of not being publicly shamed in the dog park. He was doing the best he could as we all do. And it is a fun story to be reminded to listen to the still small voice within rather than the loud, judgmental voice of the ego.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality...

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Stress and Relationships

Angus and I were both really looking forward to the Soul-Centered Series starting, and we have both had more on our minds than usual as we prepared for it. In the past, this would have resulted in us having a blowout! Fortunately, this didn't happen this time.   This difference is we each found our own way to be more comfortable with our human experience of nerves and anxiety. This was topped off by me waking up to the smell of smoke at 5:30 this morning, but once I ascertained there was no immediate danger or requirement to prepare for evacuation I...

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The Sneakiness of Busyness and Self-Importance

I’m back in LA enjoying a cozy rainy day after participating in Barb Patterson’s Business Accelerator program. The experience was a great example of what is possible when one is willing to step into the unknown and see what emerges from a clean slate. To say I was surprised by what came forward is an understatement.   I went in knowing something felt off regarding my work, but I had no idea what. As Angus and I explored our ideas related to helping couples rewild their relationships everything felt fresh and alive. We are committed to moving forward with the book....

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When Stress Goes Up, Relationships Go Down — The Solution Is More Simple Than You Think

Gallup recently released their latest annual update on the world’s emotional state and it shows that Americans' Stress, Worry, and Anger Intensified in 2018. Highlights from the survey indicate that Americans are among the most stressed in the world. Nearly half of Americans are worried a lot, one in five are angry a lot, and younger Americans between the ages of 15 and 49 are among the most stressed, worried and angry.   When people feel stressed one of the main areas that is impacted in their life is their intimate relationships. So many clients come to me puzzled that they act...

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