relationships | Rohini Ross

Awakening to Presence: Healing, Feeling, and the Magic of Being

It has been a while since you have heard from me. I have been dealing with some health challenges after taking a while to recover from Covid. And Angus had knee replacement surgery, so I've been supporting him in his recovery. He is doing really well. The doctor said he is ahead of 90% of his patients at this stage, so his commitment to physiotherapy is paying off.   My health needs and supporting Angus have forced me to slow down.   In slowing down, I noticed a layer of numbness being stripped away. I became aware of a level of dissociation from my...

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The Freedom to Embrace Wholeness However YOU Want

Angus and I did a psilocybin journey recently as part of our ongoing exploration of consciousness. I used to be very judgmental about plant medicine. Coming from a strong indoctrination in yogic and meditation traditions, I saw psychedelics as cheating. I then became involved in a more Christian-based spiritual group that expressly prohibited plant medicine, including marijuana, but not alcohol, interestingly enough. However, during this time, I was introduced to plant medicine and participated in a ceremony where I took a heart-opener. As a novice, the guide gave me the starter potion.   I had a blissful time. I experienced myself as a...

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Healing from Heartbreak

Enjoy our latest vlog!   In this vlog, we dive deep into how to recover from a difficult breakup. While most of our clients choose to stay together, we recognize that sometimes ending a relationship is for the highest good. We discuss how people often suffer from misunderstandings about themselves that have them feel unloved and unlovable. We emphasize the importance of feeling the grief that comes with a breakup but caution against getting stuck in the narrative of the relationship ending. Instead, we encourage you to be present with your feelings and the discomfort that arises. Doing so allows you to bring love...

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Navigating Difficult Conversations in Relationships

Enjoy our latest vlog!   Welcome to our vlog! We're excited to try a new filming format that we are going to use for the second season of our podcast.   Today, we'll explore difficult conversations in relationships and provide valuable insights to make them easier.   In the early stages of our relationship, we realized that discussions about money triggered emotional responses within us that had nothing to do with money. A lighthearted incident with Angus' accountant comparing Angus' financial knowledge to the accountant's cat, where the cat came out ahead, provided some foreshadowing for this being a difficult topic. And Rohini's encounter with a...

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There Is No Safety to Be Found in Relationships

Angus wrote what turned out to be a somewhat controversial Instagram post a few weeks ago where he said, “Your partner cannot make you feel anything.”   And I received a question recently asking what does safety look like in relationships?   So I thought it would be helpful to make a clarification between the psychological perspective and the spiritual perspective. There is so much focus on psychotherapy in Western culture that this viewpoint has become embedded in our worldview and the dominant cultural narrative so that it becomes part of the invisible lens through which we see things. This makes it seem like...

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Unlocking the Power Within: Transforming Your Relationship and Embracing Infinite Possibilities

Angus and I interviewed Ankush Jain recently for our Rewilders Community, and he reminded us how people could give up too easily. In life and relationships, we can get used to an unhealthy normal. We often don't see where we have given up hope due to our inability to see possibilities even though the potential is there. Our conditioning clouds our judgment, and we trust the lens through which we see life rather than recognizing that we don't see the whole reality with all its possibilities.   This made me think about relationships and how couples can feel they are in a...

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Breaking the Chains of Toxic Masculinity

Enjoy our latest vlog!   Welcome to our vlog! In this episode, we dive deep into the value of vulnerability for intimacy in relationships. Inspired by a recent conversation on toxic masculinity, we explore how societal conditioning can hinder our ability to be vulnerable, especially for men. We share our personal experiences and reflect on the impact of suppressing emotions.   Join us as Angus recounts a poignant incident from his past that challenged his perception of vulnerability. Discover how a powerful moment of vulnerability and the subsequent compassionate response of others changed his perspective. We unpack the concept of toxic masculinity and its...

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How to Stop Unresolved Trauma from Derailing Your Relationship

Enjoy our latest vlog! [embed]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TiVXdkcAYOM[/embed]   Trauma has no expiration date - it can manifest in surprising ways, especially in relationships. Our latest vlog explores how unresolved issues can cause communication breakdowns. Watch as we share an example from our lives and delve into the internal experiences that can trigger these reactions. Let us know what you think - have you experienced anything similar? Have you ever experienced unresolved trauma impacting your relationships?   We'd love to hear from you in the comments. And don't forget to subscribe to our newsletter below so you never miss an episode of our vlog. Thank you for watching!   Originally...

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Being Kind to Yourself is Good for You and Your Relationship

The Inner Narrator and Its Impact   You are probably aware of the voice in your head, the inner narrator commenting on you and your life. Rather than being in the moment, it judges the moment. This human proclivity does not mean something is wrong with you, and it is not something to fix or change about yourself. However, I have found it helpful to be mindful of the quality of thinking it shares with me.   Recently I haven't been feeling well for an extended period. Due to a mild autoimmune disorder flare-up, I haven't been my usual self with my normal energy...

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Judgements Help Reveal Our Blind Spots

Enjoy our latest vlog!   If we can remain open to our experience, we can learn a great deal about our blind spots and how to heal. In this month's vlog, Rohini shares an example of when she felt disrespected, undervalued, and overburdened by Angus. However, upon reflection, she realized her upset was not caused by Angus's request. Her lack of neutrality reflected her own judgments and how she relates to herself. This was a blind spot for her. By taking a moment to experience her feelings rather than react from them, Rohini held space for herself emotionally and was then able...

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