relationships | Rohini Ross - Part 2

Building Stronger Relationships Through Universal Understanding

I listened to this episode of the Emerald podcast, The Revolution Will Not Be Psychologized and loved the distinction Joshua Schrei makes between western psychology and other communal forms of healing. This aligns with The Rewilders' view that personal healing and relationship transformation comes from a deeper understanding of our impersonal nature rather than delving into the individual content of our thoughts, feelings, and experiences and trying to improve ourselves that way.   Our focus is to support our clients with having a deeper experience of their true nature. That experience is the real source of transformation and healing. Rather than delving into...

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Repressed Emotions vs. Repressing Emotions & Healing

There is a difference between the idea of repressed emotions and the action of consciously or unconsciously repressing emotions. It is unclear what repressed emotions are and where they are found, if anywhere in the body. But we all have probably experienced behavioral habits we use to try and resist our emotions when uncomfortable feelings arise. I have used various techniques to try and feel better, some that I thought were good for me, and some that I knew were bad, but they all made sense when I felt unsafe with my feelings.   This resistance to overwhelming emotional experiences is a...

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The Gift of Taking Things Personally

It feels good when we don’t take things personally in relationships. We enjoy the feelings of inner freedom and goodwill when we feel compassion for our struggling partners when their behavior misses the mark. We enjoy the feelings of internal stability when we are undisturbed by our partners' emotional dysregulation and feel internally stable. This feels good, and it feels bad when we take things personally. We can misinterpret the bad feelings to mean something is wrong with us, or we are doing things wrong. We can judge ourselves as not good enough when we take our partner’s behavior personally,...

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The Importance of Being Able to Say “No” in Your Relationship

Enjoy our latest vlog!   In today's vlog, we discuss the importance of being able to say "No" when it comes to relationships. Setting boundaries with our partner can sometimes be challenging, but it is an essential part of any healthy relationship. When we succumb to our people-pleasing habits or do something we don't want to do to avoid conflict we are not making the self-honoring decision. Not honoring our intuition when it’s saying no will very likely lead to resentment.   Asserting boundaries that are coming forward from our inner wisdom will in all likelihood reduce conflict and increase goodwill. If Wisdom is...

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A Very Happy Made-Up New Year to You!

I've noticed a lovely trend in the emails coming into my inbox at this time of year reminding me to take it easy.   The feedback is to go at your own pace. Listen to your inner feedback regarding your boundaries. Slow down. Rest! Remember that time is a construct. Don't let something made up cause you to feel a sense of urgency and make yourself rush. There is no objective time, so you can't be behind. Yes, you can miss deadlines, appointments, and flights, but no matter what, you are always doing the best that you can, and you are more...

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Rewilding Love with Rohini Ross

Enjoy Rohini's webinar, Rewilding Love, for Sanctuary of Earth.   Just like nature can be rewilded, we, too, can be rewilded back to our natural state of love. Love is who we are at our core. What gets in the way of us experiencing that is the conditioned thinking that we learn because we think it will protect us and help us avoid suffering. Unfortunately, however, it does not help us thrive. Rohini will share how we can overcome our conditioning to be rewilded out of our normal state and back to our natural state of love.   Originally published on https://www.therewilders.org/.   Angus & Rohini...

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‘Tis the Season of Peace, Goodwill, and Holiday Stress

Angus and our youngest daughter got our Christmas tree last week. I purchased all of the girls stocking stuffers way ahead of time. Even though our daughters are young adults, we all love the Christmas morning ritual of them opening the gifts in their pillowcases. Angus's family used pillowcases rather than stockings. This seemed very practical, so we kept that tradition.   And even though this is the season of peace and goodwill, all of the festivities can come with the experience of extra pressure and holiday stress that can take a toll on health and relationships.   I have experienced internal pressure to...

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The Easy Recipe for Addressing Relationship Challenges

Spiritual teachings suggest that we are all beautiful, unique expressions of one source of life force. Each of us is an emanation of that divine light. That essence cannot be understood but is felt and recognized by qualities such as love, joy, peace, and well-being. This essence is not unique to us, but we all have a unique experience of that essence.   We each live in our separate reality. Each of us living in unique experiences can be challenging for intimate relationships, but recognizing that we are expressions of the same being makes compassion easier to find.   Botanist and citizen of the...

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Is Remembering Mortality Helpful in Relationships?

In a recent Rewilders' Community webinar, we were asked to speak on death. We had a poignant conversation with many sharing their experiences related to death, grief, near-death experiences, and the lessons learned. It made me think of the Latin phrase Memento Mori, which means to "remember that you must die." This phrase is not meant to be depressing but intended to illuminate and inspire one to live life fully in this moment. Memento Mori might seem like a depressing theme to use as inspiration for a relationship post, but I find it refreshing and practical.   Recently when Angus and I returned...

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Code Red in Relationships

Empathy is being able to understand what someone else is feeling or being able to see a situation from another person's point of view. The capacity to have empathy for another is essential for the success of intimate relationships. This is an obvious statement, but it is easier said than done.   When moods drop, and mental and emotional bandwidths shrink, empathy is hard to come by.   Humans tend to make assumptions and not realize they are doing so. We live in separate realities created through the filter of our thought systems and don't realize how far apart the way we see things...

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