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Not Taking Low Moods Seriously

We recorded this Vlog later in the day because Angus and I got ensconced in a conversation that turned out to be unnecessary because all I was doing was taking Angus' low mood seriously. This made sense from my low mood state. Eventually, Angus realized that he wasn't rational and encouraged me not to pay attention to what he was saying. What a relief! In the Vlog, he reminds us that when we are in a low mood and suffering looking to the impersonal provides relief. We forget about the personal and feel the peace that is beyond our troubled...

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Having A One Track Mind

Angus has a tendency of having a one-track mind that can be very effective at getting things done. He gets a bit between his teeth and doesn't stop, but when it turns into ruminating it doesn't work out so well.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild...

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The Tale of Niko and The Coyote

Angus went on a wild Niko chase and got scratched up in the process. He sees now how he ignored the whisper of his wisdom in favor of not being publicly shamed in the dog park. He was doing the best he could as we all do. And it is a fun story to be reminded to listen to the still small voice within rather than the loud, judgmental voice of the ego.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality...

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Stress and Relationships

Angus and I were both really looking forward to the Soul-Centered Series starting, and we have both had more on our minds than usual as we prepared for it. In the past, this would have resulted in us having a blowout! Fortunately, this didn't happen this time.   This difference is we each found our own way to be more comfortable with our human experience of nerves and anxiety. This was topped off by me waking up to the smell of smoke at 5:30 this morning, but once I ascertained there was no immediate danger or requirement to prepare for evacuation I...

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Dealing With Children’s Low Moods

If you have difficulty with your child’s low moods, it can be really helpful to recognize that the difficulty you experience is a reflection of your own state of mind. Seeing this helps you to remember to take care of yourself. It also helps wake you up to what direction you are looking in. Are you looking in the direction of your true nature or are you looking in the direction of your ego’s stories and judgments?   One direction leads you to more suffering through the experience of separation, and one leads you back home to wellbeing. It is also much...

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Look Toward Wellbeing When Your Laundry List of Woes Grabs You

When you get caught up in your laundry list of woes about your partner, see if you can remember that trying to improve your relationship by reviewing the list will only create more suffering. What you are really looking for is an inner experience of being connected with who you are. If you remember this, it helps you to get unglued from all of the complaints that come to mind when you are upset and points you back to your natural state. It helps you to drop out of your head so you can fall back into your heart and...

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Love Is In The Air — The Impersonal Kind

I felt so moved reflecting on the participants in the next Soul-Centered Series these words for the first night flowed through me. Since the program doesn't start until October 11th, and I am feeling these words on September 21st, I know they won't be the words I speak when we get together, but I wanted to share them.   The inspiration behind the Soul-Centered Series is to create a space where like-minded people come together and look in the direction of what Sydney Banks pointed to in his teachings.  At the heart of what he shared, Sydney Banks was pointing to the...

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Do You Have A Problem With Your Partner’s Low Moods

A big SHOUT OUT to Dr. Amy Johnson who has two free webinars coming up and her Little School of Big Change is launching soon. I've included the links below.   Now for Angus and me, one of the most common themes that comes up when we work with the couples is one or both of them not liking each other's behavior when they are in a low mood and thinking their partner needs to change in order for them to be happy.   Relationships are so much easier when we understand our partner's low mood behavior is not personal, and if we are...

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The Best Relationship Remedy

Relationship advice is usually focused on trying to cultivate more of a feeling of love that comes and goes rather than on waking up to your essence of love that is always there no matter what. It might seem counter-intuitive to focus on something that can only be found and experienced within when it looks like the issues are without involving two people not just oneself, but ultimately any experience of upset we experience comes from within.   It is the ultimate in empowerment, freedom, and liberation to see that what causes our internal experiences arises from our own thoughts and not...

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Teenagers and Getting Intoxicated with Anger

Angus and I have both been brought to our knees recently and humbled by witnessing ourselves become intoxicated with anger. Worst of all it was in our relationship with our teenage daughter!   There have been lessons on both sides. For Angus, he saw his capacity to ride out his intoxication with anger from a neutral space and return to his natural state of love quite quickly. For me, I saw more clearly how my reactivity is only the result of me taking things personally. I embodied the understanding a little more deeply so the next time I was confronted with reactivity,...

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