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Don’t Despair Over The Post-Honeymoon Fall From Grace

It is actually a blessing when the fall from grace happens.   Most people are upset and troubled when they experience difficulties in their intimate relationships. There are a few, however, that see the difficulties as a gift.   Firstly, to have the gift of an intimate relationship in which the pressure comes off to be perfect is a huge blessing. We can often keep it together at work or in social situations through the willpower of self-management driven by fear, and some people even maintain this facade in intimate relationships, but it is a real blessing to be in a relationship that is...

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Angus Now Understands His Yoga Nightmare/Breakthrough More Deeply

Happy New Year!   A Thursday vlog for a change because Angus and I are going away to celebrate his entry into a new decade. Listen in to hear about his latest senior moment. I don’t actually think it is a senior moment. Angus has been absentminded ever since I met him. Suffice to say that saki and lemonade are not to his tastes.   And Angus shares about his breakdown/breakthrough moment in yoga camp in New Mexico with greater insight. Hopefully, this reminds you that you can leave your thinking alone and look beyond it to experience the peace and potential that lies...

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A Healthy Relationship Starts With You!

Who has a healthy relationship all the time?   All relationships are the reflection of the two people in the relationship. They will as such reflect the health of the individuals moment to moment. This means that the health of a relationship can dramatically change based on how the two people are showing up in it.   What I have noticed is that people can become very judgmental of themselves and blame themselves as not being capable of being in a healthy relationship. They feel that their human frailties cause problems and prevent the experience of a healthy relationship.   Blame becomes the source of discouragement,...

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Happy Birthday Angus!

We celebrated Angus's birthday which is very fitting as Angus shares his most senior moment to date, and he offers words of wisdom regarding busyness and the perils of becoming overly focused on checking off your To-Dos.   If you are interested in the New Year program 2020 INSIGHT we mentioned, here is the link: https://barbarapatterson.com/insight/   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders". They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen...

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The Key to a Better Relationship

If you want a better relationship forget, about your partner and forget about working on your relationship. It is all about you!   This is not selfish in the typical definition of selfish being lacking consideration for others and concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. It is Selfish in the sense of putting your true nature first and letting the rest take care of itself.   What does it mean to put your true nature first?   Only you can decide that for you. What it means for me is to have a sincere intention to wake up to who I am beyond...

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Remember This The Next Time You Are Upset

I no longer have a personal prayer. I have the prayer of aligning with that which is -- the impersonal flow of the divine that starts beyond space and time. We live in the experience of the illusion, and we forget about the divine. The clouds of thought disguise who we really are. As Hafiz so beautifully wrote:   You are God hiding from yourself. Remove all the “mine” -- that is the veil. … You are God in Drag!   Waking up to this is the direction I want to look in.   Not only are we God hiding from ourselves, but we also become attached to the hiding.   We...

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You Can’t Shout Someone Into Wellbeing

Angus and I have been moody buggers this week!   We are sharing our experience of losing the plot and finding our way again as a means to normalize the experience and to point to the temporary nature of this kind of experience.   This week for whatever reason we got gripped. It all started over soup. I was working late and Angus kindly made us soup for dinner. All good, until I didn’t like the soup and didn’t want to eat it. I am not usually a picky eater, but for some reason, the texture of the soup turned my stomach.   Angus took this...

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Help For Relationship Reactivity

I’m working with a young man related to success and performance. However, as part of our conversations, his relationship came up. He was feeling bad about his behavior. He had a lot of insight into why he behaves reactively at times. He recognized that when he gets insecure he loses his temper and becomes controlling as a way to try and stabilize himself. When angry, he feels compelled to behave that way and feels justified. However, afterward, he is filled with shame and remorse for his actions. He was feeling discouraged because he hadn't been able to change his behavior....

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Toy Drive & Taking Things Personally

Our friend Paige is helping coordinate a toy drive for the 100 children at the San Fernando Valley Refugee Children's Center, in North Hills, CA   Many of the unaccompanied minors were in detention centers at the border and are hoping to get asylum. The little kids are with a parent and they have all escaped gangs and potential murder, back in Central America.   The Center: https://www.noestassolonorthhills.org   Here is the link for the toy drive wish list. When you order, please choose this address when it gives the prompt: Kelly Radinsky's Gift Registry. Click here for the link.   Regarding the Vlog, understand that it is normal...

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