relationship advice | Rohini Ross - Part 15

A Deal Breaker Today Could Rule Out the Love of Your Life Tomorrow

Angus and I have been working with several couples recently where the subject of deal breakers has come up. They thought it would be a good idea to clarify deal breakers in service to deciding whether or not to move forward with their relationships. When I look back on my relationship with Angus, I realize there were many things that I would have considered to be deal breakers early on in our relationship if I had thought this way, but they turned out not to be.   One that comes to mind is that I was absolutely committed to being a stay-at-home...

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He Said, She Said: Differences Are Not the Problem in Relationships

Angus is nearly ready to walk off the Vlog again because I mention that couples have different preferences related to frequency of sex. I'm not sure why he was so freaked out by this. All I was saying is that differences are often seen as the problem in relationships, and are perceived as the cause of incompatibility, when the real culprit is being caught up in negative thinking.   We all have the capacity to work through differences and find common ground when we are connected with our wellbeing and able to tap into our infinite potential for new thought. When...

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He Said, She Said: Angus Does His Impersonation of a Bobblehead

Angus thinks he is just a pretty face. He doesn't realize how much value his presence and insights add to the Vlogs. But he does bring a good feeling today even if Rohini bores him.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couple's retreats that support the deepening of connection and understanding. We work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. Find out more about Angus and Rohini’s upcoming...

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He Said, She Said: Arguments Aren’t the End of the World

We are not perfect! Sometimes we don't listen to our own sensible advice. The good news is we are resilient and able to get over ourselves. This allows us to rebound from arguments much more quickly than in the past. Ultimately, love prevails even when we do not act our best -- what a relief!   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couple's retreats that support the deepening of connection and understanding. We work with couples who are struggling and couples...

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He Said, She Said: Forgetfulness isn’t Personal

Angus is not forgetful. He is just living in the present moment. Rohini has an opportunity to not take Angus' ultra zen present moment way of being personally. And zen and forgetfulness aside, love is always our Super Power. Thank you Theresa and Bradford of SuperLove Tees for our t-shirts -- we love them!   Also, click here for the link to the upcoming workshop "Relationship Essentials" that Angus and I are facilitating with Mark and Carrie Sisson. Come and explore what supports lasting love and deepening intimacy in relationships.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and...

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Sex and Marriage: Go Together Like a Horse and Carriage?

Recently my husband Angus and I did our Friday Vlog about sex. He was reticent to talk about our experience in this area, but I managed to convince him to do it since this is a subject that is challenging for many couples, especially couples in long-term relationships no matter what their sexual orientation. Sex often comes up as an issue for our clients even if it has nothing to do with the coaching they signed up for.   For us, it is an area of great learning. I can see now how the quality and richness of our sex life is a litmus...

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He Said, She Said: Let’s Talk About Sex

Much to Angus' chagrin sex is the topic of this week's Vlog. We discuss how we were both able to overcome the polarization we experienced in this area of our relationship.   Angus and Rohini love to work with couples and help them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couple's retreats that support the deepening of connection and understanding. We work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. ...

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Three Keys That Transformed My Marriage

I was surprised by how popular my post "Marriage: The First Ten Years Were The Hardest" was. It really struck a nerve.   For Valentine's Day, I thought I would share the three keys that allowed me to fall in love with my husband all over again, and help me to keep falling in love with him more each day. I love you Angus!   Understanding my husband's upset is never personal. Part of what contributed to the suffering in our relationship was how reactive I was to Angus' anger. I had no tolerance for this behavior. I judged him for his anger. I saw...

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