There has been a lot going on recently. Being evacuated and not knowing if the wildfire was going to spread to our neighborhood. The death of a client. Getting sick. Feeling the loss of our dog Bella as at the one year anniversary of her death. But I wasn’t suffering. Even when I was experiencing excruciating pain with a UTI, I noticed I could be with the pain and not suffer. Previously it would have taken much less for me to be suffering.
There is a quote by Haruki Murakami related to marathon running where he says, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” Haruki makes a distinction between pain and suffering with pain being the physical sensations and suffering being caused by the interpretation or the judgment placed on the experience.
This makes so much sense to me not only for physical pain but for emotions too. I do not suffer when I am open and relaxed around my emotional experience versus resistant or reacting to it independent of what the feelings I am experiencing are. I used to think I needed to have good feelings in order not to suffer. Now I see that when I am open I don’t suffer no matter what my feeling quality is. It is natural, however, that we tighten up when we are scared. Instinctually, we mobilize when fear is present.
That is why remembering the unchanging essence of who I am and understanding the transitory nature of my human experience is what allows me to not be scared of my experience so I can naturally stay relaxed. I can’t force myself to be relaxed, but when I feel the well-being of my true nature it allows me to stay relaxed as feelings and thoughts flow through me.
If you would like to experience your Authentic Self more fully, consider attending the two-day workshop I am co-facilitating with Barb Patterson New Year. Fresh Start. in January. Click here to learn more. And if you are a Solopreneur and would like to be part of a dynamic group as you take your business to the next level here is the link for our upcoming Mastermind. If you sign up for the Mastermind by December 15th, the New Year. Fresh Start workshop is included for FREE.
Rohini Ross is excited to present The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality, and the Teachings of Sydney Banks with the original students of Sydney Banks in Santa Monica, CA. She is passionate about helping people wake up to their true nature. She is a transformative coach and trainer, and author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1). She has an international coaching practice helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they can experience greater levels of well-being, resiliency, and success. You can follow Rohini on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, watch her Vlogs with her husband, Angus Ross, and subscribe to her weekly blog on her website, rohiniross.com.