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Rohini’s Blog

He Said, She Said: Understanding Is What is Needed to Find Solution for Public Safety

Angus talks about the cultural differences between England and the US regarding the ownership of guns. He has his own experience of heightened security growing up during the era of IRA bombings in London. Rohini points to the importance of being able to find common ground related to this issue in order to find a solution. This requires mutual understanding and respect between opposing sides. Angus and I agree that shootings are the result of someone with a destabilized mind buying into the misunderstanding that reacting to and acting on their destabilized thinking is a good idea. We also support...

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Don’t Be Afraid of Your Coping Mechanisms: They Are Your Best Wisdom in the Moment

I like the feeling of being on top of things. This is a comfortable place for my ego to hang out. I can get smug about this and feel very pleased with myself. Look at me! Look at how together I am! There are also times of growth that I really enjoy. When I am stepping into the unknown and don't have anything figured out. This experience is fun and exhilarating. I enjoy both the comfort of the known and the excitement of the unknown.   What I have more trouble enjoying and appreciating is the mess. I don't like feeling I am...

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He Said, She Said: Sex and Connection

Is it Shrek? Is it a giant and a pygmy in a shed, or is it Angus and Rohini in their sauna talking about what used to get in the way of sex? Or how even now they may have to navigate different levels of desire. As Angus says, it is all about connection. There is more than one way to get there, but that is what we both want.   And, I do know that Angus did not cause my resentment. I was just taking his behavior personally rather than being able to understand and have compassion for his suffering. If...

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Awakening from Perfectionism to the Raw, Juicy, Messy, Freedom of Magnificent You!

I am starting to write a book about waking up from perfectionism. The idea began as a memoir, but after speaking with my writing coach, who is also a publisher, it made more sense to write it in the format of a "self-help" book. This means I am doing all kinds of research on perfectionism and the various psychological approaches to address it.   Perfectionism is a cluster of behaviors that are a coping mechanism for navigating feelings of anxiety and insecurity. It can result in very serious psychological suffering such as depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, substance abuse and suicidality. However,...

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He Said, She Said: More Peace, Less Reactivity

Angus shares how he is experiencing greater freedom from his reactive thoughts. He can have them without feeling compelled to act on them. I can certainly take a leaf out of his book. We are enjoying the peace and looking forward to a relaxing weekend of recharging!   Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders, and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection...

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Optimal Performance With or Without Confidence

I've been preparing for a corporate training next week and the theme they want to explore is confidence. There are two things that occur to me about confidence right now:   Confidence is our natural state. It doesn't matter if we feel confident or not.   Regarding confidence being our natural state, I used to think the exact opposite. I thought that confidence was something I was lacking, and I needed to find it, create it, and fix my issues so that I could experience it. This was a very painful way to view confidence. It reinforced my belief that I was...

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He Said, She Said: Getting a Thicker Skin is Good for Relationships

Angus re-enacts a prank he played on me that he thought would be funny but that actually terrified me. I may not be ready for more pranks, but I have got a lot better about not taking things personally. This has made our relationship so much easier. I love the greater levels of light-heartedness we both experience simply from seeing the fluid nature of thought and experience and recognizing our natural tendency as human beings is to drop into feelings of love and wellbeing -- so reassuring!   Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to...

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The Big 5-0!

This weekend, thanks to my amazing husband Angus, I got to celebrate my 50th birthday! My actual birthday was in November, but based on the busyness of life, we had the party this Saturday! This, however, worked out perfectly because on my actual birthday our beloved dog Bella was seriously ill and had to be put down the next day. I am so grateful that I got to celebrate with people I love when that experience was not so raw.   I was so moved to be with everyone. It is not always easy for me to take in that amount of...

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He Said, She Said: Not Feasting on Negative Thoughts

I forced Angus to throw me a 50th birthday party against his will. You will find out what a mean wife I am. Angus also shares some pearls of wisdom about not feasting on his negative thoughts.     Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and...

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Less Angst, More Freedom

I have just finished the Pransky & Associates Professional training and feel filled up with beautiful feelings. I am struck by how profound and transformative the experience was. It is so freeing to see even more clearly that humans have no issues to resolve.   In a spiritual understanding of the human experience, the innate wisdom and intelligence behind life is always there to inform and guide us. We all have access to this source, and we have everything we need inside of ourselves to navigate our life circumstances. The qualities of our true self, including wisdom, humor, love, compassion, and empathy...

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