Differences Are Only a Problem in a Low Mood
I don’t really sleep under a tarpaulin. For some reason Angus has taken exception to my weighted blanket. And he can get annoyed with my temperature needs that are different than his own, even though I am used to wearing extra layers, especially in the car. ?❄❄❄
But the point we are making is that from a good mood these differences are not issues or problems. They can be amusing, but they are not challenging. However, from a low mood they, and other differences between us, can look like real problems. ??
We have both gotten better at recognizing when we are in a low mood. We don’t trust our thinking during those times, and as a result we are more likely to leave our thoughts alone. We know if we don’t focus on them they will settle. That is the nature of thought. ✨
We also understand we are only temporarily not on the same team because we are caught up in feelings of separation not just from each other, but also from our loving essence. ???
There is no point in trying to work out differences from this state of mind. Our thoughts are distorted and nothing good comes from that. However, when we are both in a good place, resolution is as simple and obvious as common sense. We are naturally on the same team and are grounded in love. Not just our love for each other, but grounded in the love that is universal to who we all are. From that perspective there are no differences — we are one. ??
I am sure Angus will stop taking my weighted blanket personally soon! ???
Rohini and Angus are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders, and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) and founder of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks being offered in Santa Monica, California starting October 2018. You can also subscribe to her weekly blog that includes this weekly Vlog on her website, rohiniross.com.