Rohini | Rohini Ross - Part 22

He Said, She Said: Angus’s Big Problem in Our Marriage

Who knew Angus has a big problem with me?! It wasn't what I thought it would be. Of my many character weaknesses and personality quirks it was not on the top of my list. Just goes to show how we each live in our separate reality and see the world in our unique way that makes sense to us. WARNING: view discretion advised.   Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and...

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Would You Rather Be Happy or Would You Rather Be Free?

You have probably heard the expression, "Would your rather be right or would you rather be happy?" It is a helpful reminder that holding on rigidly to a position creates suffering. However, during this weekend while teaching a workshop, with Dicken Bettinger and Barb Patterson, a different version occurred to me. It was, "Would you rather be happy, or would you rather free?"   For most of my life I focused on happiness and how to get more of it. This created pressure inside of me to not feel certain emotions. I didn't realize my attachment and desire to feeling happy was...

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He Said, She Said: Fighting sucks, but it is not the end of the world

We thought we would get more sleep with teenagers. They don't wake up until noon when they are on vacation, but we forgot the flip side of the late nights. Angus and I were feeling a little worse for wear from lack of sleep, and we really got duped by our reactive thinking. We both fell into believing it, and woke up believing too. That is highly unusual for us now, but it happened nonetheless. We eventually settled. We finally saw each other more clearly, and felt the love that is.   It can be scary when this happens. The intensity of...

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Why I’m Not Making Any New Year’s Resolutions

This is the time of year when resolutions abound! It is traditional to make a fresh start on the first of January and be open to new beginnings. Out with the old and in with the new! The New Year inspires people to take action on being the best version of themselves.   What is your vision for yourself this year?   Mine includes having a house with closets and a garage that would make Marie Kondo proud. Enjoying pretty hands, fitting in to my Giorgio Armani suit that I bought after having two kids, but somehow, even though I am only two...

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He Said, She Said: Freedom From Expectations

Angus shares what a relief it is to not feel any pressure to find the best party ever. Life is so much more enjoyable when we aren't trying to live up to expectations. We then get to be present and really enjoy what is right in front of us. Wishing everyone a Happy New Year! Sending you love!   Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They...

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A Love Poem for the Holidays and Beyond

Today it is Christmas But what does it mean? Not everyone celebrates We all live in our own dream.   What if the celebration is really of love? That is what unifies us, And it doesn't come from above.   Love is what is natural. Love is what is true. It is love that we share, And it can be with love that we do.   May your Holiday Season Be one filled with love. May you embrace all those close And feel the warmth of their hugs.   But the foundation is inside. The love is within. That is where it all starts. The end, the beginning, and all in between.   The world has its sorrows And you have your own. But the richest resource is...

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He Said, She Said: Watch Out for Excess!

Angus challenges me to find a Three Principles teaching point in any story he presents me with. I accept the challenge and give him the theme of excess since that comes up during the holidays. Wishing everyone a very Happy Holiday Season filled with love!   Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection and understanding....

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The Benefits of Being “All In” in Relationships and Life

Recently I have been surrounded by loss in my life and in my clients' lives. Recognizing the temporary and fragile nature of life has a way of clarifying priorities. In Bronnie Ware's book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying, she shares that most prevalent regrets of the people she worked with in palliative care are:   I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. I wish I hadn't worked so hard. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings. I wish I had stayed in touch with...

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Make the Leap into Your Inspiration

I am on  my way back from Costa Rica and feeling extremely grateful for the experience of enjoying the sand, getting a little beaten up learning to surf, visiting with friends, and relaxing in all of the beautiful nature. As the Costa Ricans say, "Pura Vida!" This is a saying that translates to mean pure life, but is more of a philosophical statement encouraging people to be grateful for what they have.   Given my checkered work history it feels miraculous to be enjoying the life I am. I come from a very simple background. I grew up mostly with a single...

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He Said, She Said: A Quickie

In this Vlog we recognize how we are both feeling more relaxed, but we remind ourselves this is an internal state of mind and not something being generated from outside of ourselves. Seeing this more clearly will be helpful for our life back in LA. Recognizing even more how our experience is ALWAYS internally generated, will make it easier to live life in alignment with a rhythm that feels good to us.   Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict...

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