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How Getting Comfortable Being Uncomfortable Changed My Life – 3PGC Webinar

Being impacted by the Principles has transformed my life and supported me with having greater impact on the lives of my clients. When I look back at what supported the transformation, I see that I experienced a dramatic shift when I just got comfortable being uncomfortable.   I will share how my defining moment with The Principles shifted how I relate to my thinking and how this resulted in me becoming resilient in the face of my insecurity and self-doubt. This has helped me to improve my performance and resulted in a dramatic increase in my income and my downtime. Before being...

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Experience Greater Peace of Mind by Understanding How Harmless Negative Emotions Are

"Spiritual bypass" is a term coined by the psychologist John Welwood. In an interview with Tina Fossil, Welwood defines a spiritual bypass as when the goal of spiritual awakening is used to try "to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it." He warns that this "leads to a conceptual, one-sided kind of spirituality where one pole of life is elevated at the expense of its opposite: Absolute truth is favored over relative truth, the impersonal over the personal, emptiness over form, transcendence over embodiment, and detachment over...

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Let’s Stop Working On Ourselves!

I have been noticing a theme with my clients across the board from the work I do with leaders, to teams, to individual clients. There is a focus on there being something wrong with them, and a pervasive idea that they would feel better and perform better once it is fixed. Their "it" could be insecurity, worry, lack of motivation, feelings of overwhelm -- fill in the blank. However, instead of diving into what they see as the problem, I help them recognize that whatever the experience is that they want to get rid of, it is not the problem. The problem...

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What a Relief — You Are Perfect Exactly As You Are!

Have you ever seen a self-help book or personal growth seminar that isn't focused on changing you? Every piece of marketing material that comes my way is tantalizing me to improve myself. The lure of being a better me with better thinking, better feelings, better achievements, and a better consciousness used to be so compelling, but it was also damaging. It painfully reinforced my belief that I was broken, damaged, and not good enough exactly as I was.   There are very few teachers telling people they are perfect exactly as they are. Not enough reassuring us there is no need to change,...

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Relax! Your Personality is Just a Thin Slice of Who You Are

It is such an easy trap to fall into, thinking our upset comes from outside of us. I have done it and still do it at times. It is easy to buy into the illusion that we feel our circumstances and not our thinking. Our emotions flood our experience so quickly it is hard to see the role thought plays in creating our reality.   Just this week I got really flustered when a video conference link wasn't working. I couldn't get into the meeting room to join the group I was supposed to be facilitating. When it was happening, it felt...

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You Are Enough — No Matter What Experience You Create for Yourself

I have just finished co-facilitating a training with Linda Pransky. What an amazing weekend! It was so much fun to work with her and to share with the attendees the simplicity of the Three Principles. I am left with feeling deep gratitude for the opportunity to be myself and to connect with others being themselves, knowing this in itself is healing. The focus of the training was working with others from the understanding of the Three Principles. These principles were articulated by Sydney Banks after his enlightenment experience. They provide a description of how human psychological functioning works, and are a way of...

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The Power of Just Being You

Enlightenment only becomes available when it has been accepted it cannot be achieved. -- Tony Parsons   I read a personal story at The Spark Off Rose last week. I was surprised by how comfortable I felt. I had never been that at ease in front of an audience before.Without my nerves, I was present in my body. I did not experience a buffer between myself and the people listening. I felt incredibly vulnerable and safe. In the past, I had always associated vulnerability with fear. This was different.   The gift I experienced from me just showing up as me was that this...

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Optimal Performance Doesn’t Require Perfection

I have been writing my blog for over a year, and this is the first time I haven't been sure what to write about. Normally something stands out during the week, and I make a mental note to write about it. This week my brain has been foggy. When I reflected on this, I realized my mood has been lower than usual. I think this may be related to the Ketogenic diet I started last Sunday.   I began the diet because I have put on about twenty pounds over the past year. This is very unusual for me and seems to...

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Are We Human or Are We Divine?

"Let go of who you think you are supposed to be and embrace who you are." -- Brené Brown  The ego's mantra is to feel more, do more, have more, be more. It screams, "I am not enough!" It believes the next moment, the next hour, the next future will better. We humans can so easily get pulled into these thoughts.   Given that, how do I sit with my insecure thinking? How do I accept feeling my unworthiness?  I find it easier to be with these thoughts and feelings when I realize they are simply part and parcel of the human experience. I...

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Taking the Plank Out of My Eye — Nothing Can Disturb My Peace Other than My Thinking

When I scrolled through my emails recently, I saw one from an established coach listed as personal. The email title was my name. When I open the email, it said, "Do you have space for a new coaching client, Rohini?" I have seen this email before. I remember it.   Six months ago, I was speaking with a new coach developing his practice. We were discussing how his business was going, and he was very excited that he had received a personal email from this coach asking him if he was interested in new coaching client. He assumed the email was specific...

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