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Inspiration Takes Care of the How To

I remember my first coach Steve Chandler telling me the "how to" is never the problem. The challenge is always with the "want to". If the "want to" is big enough people always figure out the "how to". This was echoed to me in a conversation with Steve Hardison. I couldn't comprehend how I could possibly pay his fee. He said to me, "If one of your children was sick and you needed this amount of money to save their life you would figure it out." I knew he was right. I realized my "want to" simply wasn't big enough,...

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Under Pressure: Until We See How We Make The Pressure Up

I wrote in a Facebook comment for Angus' and my Vlog that perhaps we should stop calling what we do transformational coaching and call it "just be yourself coaching".  In response, a friend sent me a text saying, "You aren't coaches. You are modeling humanity and human-ness." This struck a chord within me. Angus and I do help people to experience greater levels of success both personally and professionally by helping them to embrace their humanness. As a by-product of this, they have a deeper connection with their true nature. This takes the pressure off of them so they can...

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Live Big and Bold Not Perfect!

I help people wake up more fully to the perfection of who they are -- exactly as they are. Success is the by-product of allowing our natural genius to express itself. We get better results in all areas of our life as a result of experiencing our true nature and allowing our deeper wisdom to guide us.   In my life, this meant surrendering my perfectionism and workaholism. These behaviors were the result of me thinking my personal mind was in charge and in control. My wisdom now helps me to see this is far from the truth and guides me to...

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Success is the By-Product of a Clear State of Mind

Barbara Patterson and I are launching our second Mastermind this week. We will be exploring with the group how to take their businesses to the next level in a way that is aligned with their Authentic Selves, and naturally fun and inspiring. One of the themes that emerged from the enrollment conversations I had for the group was an inquiry into what success really is. What was clear for many of the people I spoke to is that success involves being able to enjoy life and to have the spaciousness and freedom to do projects and activities they want to. No...

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Let’s Stop Working On Ourselves!

I have been noticing a theme with my clients across the board from the work I do with leaders, to teams, to individual clients. There is a focus on there being something wrong with them, and a pervasive idea that they would feel better and perform better once it is fixed. Their "it" could be insecurity, worry, lack of motivation, feelings of overwhelm -- fill in the blank. However, instead of diving into what they see as the problem, I help them recognize that whatever the experience is that they want to get rid of, it is not the problem. The problem...

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Take Your Eyes Off The Scoreboard and Live Your Life!

I was at a training recently and basketball coach John Wooden, famous for winning ten NCAA National championships for UCLA in a 12-year period, was mentioned. The anecdote shared was that while coaching his team at half-time, a rookie player piped up and said, "We are x number of points up. We are doing okay!" John Wooden told him to forget about the scoreboard and focus on playing the game to the best of his abilities.   I recognized how pertinent this advice is for life. It is so easy to get caught up in measuring how we are doing and to...

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Understanding Is More Important Than Motivation When It Comes to Performance

It is surprising what isn’t needed for peak performance. Motivation, positive thinking, a good emotional state are not required to perform our best. This is clearly illustrated when the professional athletes I work with tell me they have played some of their best games when they were injured, sick, or in a bad mood. This also applies to performance in general. It is easy for us to get caught up investing energy into trying to manage and improve variables that have nothing to do with results.   Managing our thinking so we stay positive is often thought to be worthy of devoting...

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The Secret Behind Optimal Performance That Doesn’t Require Effort

The traditional focus for improving performance whether it is individual or organizational, is to work on improving motivation, ability and behavior. The premise is, that the most important variables for success are knowledge, skills and effort. From this perspective, all that is needed to get better results is to work harder, learn new and better skills, and be vigilant with self-discipline. This may produce incremental increases in results, but what happens when we reach the limit of how hard we can work, how self-disciplined we can be, and how skilled we can become? Does that mean performance has to stagnate?...

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Success Coaching — Helping Clients See How They Can Take the Lid Off Their Potential

There is a distinction between coaching someone through teaching them techniques and providing them with structure and accountability so they can achieve more of their goals, and with coaching someone through teaching them about the spiritual context of how their experience is created. With the first approach it appears obvious how it would support greater levels of success in the world. With the second, it isn’t so clear how it fosters a higher level of achievement, but in my experience it is the far more effective method for igniting authentic, sustainable success.   It is the difference between teaching someone to fish...

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