Remember This The Next Time You Are Upset

Remember This The Next Time You Are Upset

I no longer have a personal prayer. I have the prayer of aligning with that which is — the impersonal flow of the divine that starts beyond space and time. We live in the experience of the illusion, and we forget about the divine. The clouds of thought disguise who we really are. As Hafiz so beautifully wrote:


You are God hiding from yourself.
Remove all the “mine” — that is the veil.

You are God in


Waking up to this is the direction I want to look in.


Not only are we God hiding from ourselves, but we also become attached to the hiding.


We say we want to suffer less, but we are often unwilling to let go of our position that prevents us from experiencing happiness and freedom.


This is of course, innocent. We are not hiding because we want to. We hide because we are afraid. We hide because we forget that we are not this fragile, separate self that can be destroyed in the blink of an eye. When we forget this, and we protect who we think we are at all costs because that looks like it is all we’ve got.


This is exhausting and has us behave in irrational ways. How can it not be irrational to try and protect a self that does not exist?


Who you are does not need protecting. Who you are does not need to be prayed for. Who you are does not need to wake up or be improved. Who you are is beyond any concept that can be understood, yet you know who you are in the depths of your being. You recognize truth. You feel it.


It is primal. It is instinctual. It is real. It is unchanging. Out of this primordial essence, the individual idea of you is created, but this idea is a pale comparison to your true self. This pale comparison is naturally insecure because it is not real. It does not exist outside of thought. There is no foundation in identity so any attempts to bolster the confidence of the imagined self are futile.


The simplicity is SEEING the imagined quality of our individual selves and remembering who we are beyond our thoughts of identity is freedom.


Look to that which is real and true. It is alive inside of you.


The distractions of day-to-day life will call you to look elsewhere. There is nothing wrong with this, but when you are suffering, rather than getting frantic and trying to fix the suffering, look to who you are beyond your experience. Rather than trying to fix the individual components of your day-to-day existence to make life more comfortable, look in the direction of the love and compassion that are your true nature.


We fall into who we are when we let go. Let go of what? Let go of identifying with our ideas of what is right and wrong. Let go of our attachments to concepts because they are not what is.


The practicality of this is that when we no longer have the self-importance of our ego as our organizing principle, we open up to experiencing what is true. We experience our innate safety and wellbeing that lies beyond the appearance of our personal psychology. We show up differently because of the certainty of our wellbeing. If I am fundamentally okay because who I am is not this fragile made up ego that gets destroyed moment to moment. If who I am is God in drag, I am going to show up differently in the world. I will approach my human experience with more freedom, open-heartedness, and generosity because there is nothing to lose, and I will actually have something to give that is infinite.


Anytime you experience discord, you have forgotten who you are.


The answer, therefore, is to look within and to remember the truth of your being. This is not passive. The empowerment that results from a fearless love is unparalleled.


Your impersonal nature is God.


You are not separate.


You have everything within.


The gift of consciousness that allows you to have a human experience is not a punishment. It is not a fall from grace. It is a game of hide and seek. Can you enjoy it?


The hiding and the seeking.


The being lost and being found.


The forgetting and the remembering.


All of it is love expressing itself through the human condition.


We all do our best to express the love that we are in the best way we can.


We are all innocently doing our best bringing forth our essence into the world.


Remember this the next time you have an argument with someone or find yourself mad at yourself.


The words, the feelings, the experience are the rainbow of experience all sourced by love. Nothing is separate from this one source. Everything is an expression of it.


Our freedom comes from seeing this and feeling the truth of it.


Would you rather have your judgments or would you rather experience the knowing of who you are. You can’t have both.


I go back and forth, and my intention is to remember who I am and drop my judgments in favor of an empty mind that lets my imagined self soften and become more translucent so what is real can be shared and experienced more easily.


When you are hurt or angry, remember you are afraid because you have forgotten who you are not because of what your judgments tell you is the source of your suffering. Seeing this clearly helps the remembering. Everything starts from there. You are love! How many times will you remember this today? How many times will you forget this today? It doesn’t matter. That is the game. Can you enjoy it?


Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their full potential. She is a transformative coach, leadership consultant, a regular blogger for Thrive Global, and author of the short-read Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) available on Amazon. You can get her free eBook Relationships here. Rohini has an international coaching and consulting practice based in Los Angeles helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they can experience greater levels of well-being, resiliency, and success. She is also the founder of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality, and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can follow Rohini on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and watch her Vlogs with her husband. To learn more about her work go to her website,


  • Connie DeKramer

    16.12.2019 at 06:43 Reply

    So beautifully and profoundly shared. Thank you for this post. These words deepen and expand the ever-present reality of who we really are. We are blessed beyond imagination.

    Much love, Connie

    • Rohini

      16.12.2019 at 07:46 Reply

      Dear Connie,

      Thanks so much for writing!

      So wonderful to hear from you and how you are impacted.

      Sending love!


  • Dicken Bettinger

    16.12.2019 at 13:50 Reply

    This is such music to my ears and my soul. A re-member-ing! A re-Mind-ing! Love whispering to it-Self! Thanks Rohini!

    • Rohini

      03.02.2020 at 15:10 Reply

      So glad you enjoyed it, Dicken! Thanks so much for letting me know! So appreciate your encouragement and support!


    16.12.2019 at 16:04 Reply

    Lovely expression of the truth of who and what we are Rohini! I will read this again and again because it hits home . That feeling of presence that is felt while reading your insights is so valuable and every time I feel it , it becomes more and more open /accessible /trust worthy and real. It’s what we all need to offer each other. … this acknowledgement of what connects us. At our core, we are this one thing and each time someone points to it we all benefit. Thank you!

    • Rohini

      03.02.2020 at 14:57 Reply

      Hi Pam, Thank you for writing! So glad the post resonated with you and that you recognize that feeling of presence comes from within you. Sending love, Rohini

  • Brian Patrick Williams

    22.12.2019 at 20:24 Reply

    “When you are hurt or angry, remember you are afraid because you have forgotten who you are…” <— My favorite quote from this post. Re-framing the human experience as a cosmic game of hide and seek really helps to soften the fear of getting lost and caught up in suffering. While I find it quite difficult to remember to "seek" when I am in pain, physical or emotional, just having this greater understanding helps to, at the very least, decrease the intensity of the pain. As I write, I can sense my intellectual, personal mind trying to "figure all of this out" and store the good feeling I felt so I never lose it and thus never experience pain again. As my mind wanders here, I feel, quite tangibly, the growing distance between the realization of who I truly am and my illusory self. It is scary. Because the feeling that I have when I am floating in the truth of my divine nature, the infinite expansiveness of my soul, is such ecstasy. And the difference between that truly blissful experience and the perceived darkness when I feel lost and caught up is so immense – it almost feels like I'll never find my way back, that I'll be stuck in darkness for eternity… Yet, I do find my way back, eventually. So, I'll just bask in the knowing that I will find my way back, always. And, if it's a game, maybe I can actually find a bit of playfulness in it all. 🙂

    Thank you Rohini.

    • Rohini

      23.12.2019 at 12:00 Reply

      Hi Brian, When you think you are your experience the roller coaster ride of human emotions can feel very intense. When you are not the experience, but the experiencer of the experience, this is a different reference point. This reference point is not transitory the way that emotional experience is. When there is constant change, but you are the constant observer there is no real change. For me, this has helped me immensely to be with the ever-changing human sensory experience in a lighter and kinder way. Sending you love!

  • Christina mills

    01.01.2020 at 05:15 Reply

    “A game of hide and seek” 🌞☔🌞☔🌞thankyou ,a timely reminder.Today this is all sinking in.Loving the breath of your blogs.💖💖💖

    • Rohini

      03.02.2020 at 14:41 Reply

      Dear Christina, So glad you chose to immerse yourself in my posts. Glad you are feeling the benefit of letting them sink in! Love, Rohini

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