Rewilding Your Relationship Vlog
It is such a relief to see that relationships work best when we are ourselves. Allowing ourselves to be in our natural state takes the pressure off. Having the freedom to be real and raw brings out the best in ourselves and our partner. What gets us into trouble is when we get scared and try to tame our ourselves and/or our partner to try and make the fear go away.
Angus tried to tame my tears in the past. He would get scared by the intensity of my feelings and try to snap me out of them. This was never helpful for either of us. It was the result of him not seeing my resilience and capacity to stabilize. And of course, the depth of my emotional despair was the result of me not seeing how I was caught up in and fueling my negative emotional experience. But him telling me this did not help, even if he was right.
Live and learn! But what a relief to see each other’s resilience and to see the innate intelligence behind life express through us so clearly that we don’t need to worry about each other’s emotional states and low moods. We are naturally resilient and bounce back. Emotions are nothing to be afraid of, in ourselves or each other.
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Rohini and Angus are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders, and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) and founder of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks being offered in Santa Monica, California starting October 2018. You can also subscribe to her weekly blog that includes this weekly Vlog on her website, rohiniross.com.