Everyone is doing the best they can at all times, and our best does fluctuate. Seeing this is what allows us to see our own and everyone else’s psychological innocence. There is freedom in that. Judgment and blame naturally fall away and we drop into our natural state of love.
Angus and I can find ourselves caught up in blame and judgment at times, but it is helpful to know that the freedom from suffering has nothing to do who or what we are blaming and everything to do with us forgetting who we are and that our wellbeing resides within. Whenever we are in blame we are in the misunderstanding that the situation should be different. It is the resistance to what is that creates the suffering. And every instance of blame and judgment is an opportunity to wake up more fully to the unconditional love that is who we are. Everything is in service to this, especially the things that annoy us!
Angus & Rohini Ross are “the Rewilders”. They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1), and they are co-founders of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can also subscribe to Rohini’s weekly blog that includes their weekly Vlog on her website, rohiniross.com.