Navigating Your Partner’s Low Mood Gracefully
It is easy to take your partner’s low mood and reactivity personally. It can look like, if they were happier, you would be happier. And it can seem kind to try and help them by offering solutions or trying to talk them out of their low mood.
Angus and I have been there and done that. We even still try to do it sometimes. But what we wake up to sooner now is that when we are doing that we have forgotten that our wellbeing and peace of mind comes from within.
Any time it looks like you would feel better if your partner were different that is a clue that you have forgotten where you true peace of mind resides. And the person most in need of your love and compassion in that moment is yourself. When you turn your gaze inward and look to your true nature, there you connect with what you are looking for and your partner is no longer an issue.
From understanding where your experience comes from it is easier to be okay even when your partner is not okay, and much more likely for you to see them through the lens of love and compassion rather than the lens of you needing them to be different in order to feel okay.
Looking toward your innate wellbeing is good for you and them too!
Here is the link for our workshop with Amy Johnson, Barb Patterson, Scott Kelly. It is available in-person and via Livestream https://barbarapatterson.com/reset/
Angus & Rohini Ross are “the Rewilders”. They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1), and they are co-founders of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can also subscribe to Rohini’s weekly blog that includes their weekly Vlog on her website, rohiniross.com.