The Ordinariness of Happiness and Peace of Mind!
Wishing you a Happy, Healthy and Prosperous New Year filled with love! May you remember that you are enough exactly as you are and that peace and contentment are your true nature. They are your birthright. There is nothing extra you need to do to experience the essence of who you are. Knowing what direction to look in and letting go, relaxing, allowing and being open is all it takes. You can’t work at it.
I’m looking forward to the upcoming New Year Fresh Start Workshop that Barb Patterson and I are co-facilitating this weekend in Santa Monica! We have a few spaces left if you would like to join us.
I have been preparing for the workshop and reflecting on the theme of looking in the direction of true nature and what the implications of this are. Pointing people in the direction of seeing all of who they are so they understand their psychological functioning, and also see beyond that to the source of their experience, allows them to wake up more fully to the innate potential that lies within. A client said to me recently during an intensive, “I can see I am sitting on a gold mine!”
This potential cannot be put into words. It is beyond the comprehension of the intellect. That is why metaphors and stories are used to point to what you can only experience in your heart and not know with your mind. And you already know this because it is ordinary. It is right here, but you may not be noticing it and appreciating it. Our ideas and concepts of what we are looking for can get in the way of us seeing what is actually important.
I am fully aware that I can’t put what I am talking about into words and that writing itself is a concept. Having a degree in cultural geography based in postmodern feminist theory, I know that all thought is a concept. I can’t escape that, but like the French post-structural feminists who birthed l’écriture feminine and placed experience before form, I can do my best to use the form of my writing to point to what lies before the mainstream view of psychology that places your wellbeing and happiness outside of you.
Thought is form, and all psychological theory focuses on analyzing and/or managing the form of thought in order to find happiness. It is a discipline filled with strategies and techniques for self-management, but it does not look to the source of where healing and transformation naturally arise. Like all scientific disciplines it focuses on trying to measure and change what has already been created and as such it is incomplete.
That is where Sydney Banks was different. He provided a map for understanding the relationship between the form of thoughts and feelings, and he also pointed beyond the form to the formless nature of who we are. He shared an understanding that is inclusive. He rejected the materialism of modern psychology and instead included both the form and the formless potential that is inside each one of us in what he shared. It is in understanding both that we see the source of healing and well-being, and experience psychological freedom.
He used concepts like Health Realization and the Three Principles of Mind, Consciousness, and Thought to point people in the direction of their true nature. But he did not confuse the map with the territory. And from what I have heard, he regularly asked people to start again from scratch when they got too attached to their ideas and confused them with what he was pointing to — the formless intelligence from which all form arises.
Science is starting to look in this direction. Deepak Chopra and physicist Menas Kafatos speak to this in their book, You Are The Universe, and the series of articles they co-authored with others, From Quanta to Qualia: The Mystery of Reality (Part 1-4). They share how quantum physics dismantled the certainty of time, space, physical objects, and cause and effect, and paved the way for a paradigm shift in physics to a consciousness-based view of the universe. They point to consciousness as the fundamental building block from which everything arises and see the science that does not include consciousness as flawed.
This explains another story I have heard where Sydney Banks shared with a group of physicists why Einstein’s formula of E=mc² did not make sense to him as quantum physicists really started to recognize and struggle with the fundamental incompatibility of quantum mechanics and general relativity at the microscopic level.
I am not a physicist nor have I had an enlightenment experience, but what I do have is my day-to-day experience. This is my personal laboratory to experience where my authentic well-being is found? And to explore what my natural state is? And you have this too.
We have been so conditioned to look outside of ourselves for happiness and to use our intellect to solve problems that it can feel strange to simply allow a deeper experience of who you are to fill you up and to look in the direction of the unknown for solutions. But it is in opening up to and looking at the full picture of your human experience that includes both the form and formless that you will experience the freedom and peace of mind that is your true nature.
It is ordinary and natural. It includes both the thoughts and the space between the thoughts. It is what is. No strategy is required. There is nowhere to get to. No effort is needed to arrive. It is in the seeing of this that the heart opens and the mind relaxes.
May your 2019 be filled with your personal exploration of waking up to the fullness of who you are and with you sharing what you see with others!
Rohini Ross is excited to present The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality, and the Teachings of Sydney Banks with the original students of Sydney Banks in Santa Monica, CA. She is passionate about helping people wake up to their true nature. She is a transformative coach and trainer, and author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1). She has an international coaching practice helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they can experience greater levels of well-being, resiliency, and success. You can follow Rohini on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, watch her Vlogs with her husband, Angus Ross, and subscribe to her weekly blog on her website, rohiniross.com.

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When you no longer give authority to the fear-based thoughts in your consciousness, all you are left with is happiness. Through the teachings of Sydney Banks, you can see how your psychological functioning works, which makes you less compelled to follow those thoughts that do not serve you. Becoming more aware of the wholeness and integration of both your human and spiritual natures helps to ground you in the unchanging essence of who you are, and ride out the ups and downs of your emotional experience more gracefully. Accepting the normalcy of your humanness will naturally reduce your anxiety and fear and enhance your joy and happiness in each moment. By placing less pressure on yourself to feel a certain way or be hung up on self-improvement, you may find that low moods do not derail or debilitate you; instead, you will become much more attuned to your innate wellbeing and peace of mind and experience more happiness as a result.
Greater psychological freedom is the gift that keeps on giving. How grateful would you feel if you no longer had to listen to your negative, self-punishing and painful inner narrative, day in and day out? Understanding the role of thought and recognizing how it creates your feelings of insecurity and self-doubt is truly liberating! You will be better able to hear and heed your inner wisdom and become less driven by the noisy thoughts of fear and constriction. As an ongoing practice, this allows you to more fully experience your resilience and reach a greater sense of clarity about how you want to move forward in your life. As a result, you can live in a way that feels authentic and true in every area, including your career, family, home, creative expression, play, relationships and overall well-being.
Your ability to enjoy life comes from being present in the moment rather than caught up in habitual, negative thoughts that take you out of the Now. Sydney Banks’ wisdom supports you in becoming aware of how you get seduced by your limited personal thinking and thus, create a painful reality of misunderstanding, fear and restriction. When you recognize how and why this happens, you can step free of the pattern. This understanding assists you to dismiss unhelpful thoughts and not take them seriously. Unlike traditional self-help or therapy, experiencing more psychological freedom and enjoyment does not rely on techniques. There are no magic bullets on the path of well-being. All you need to do is follow an internal compass that points to the truth of who you really are—beyond transient thoughts to your unchanging, formless essence.
In our culture, success is often associated with hard work and narrowly defined as material gain. However, authentic success, as shared by Sydney Banks, includes such intangibles as happiness, well-being, love, joy, compassion, and peace of mind that are innate in each one of us, along with outward goals and achievements. It honors the whole person in all walks of life, whether you are a professional, leader, executive, solopreneur, employee, mother, teacher or student. From this knowing and experience, you can access the infinite wellspring of love that is your essence, then share your gifts with the world from a place of fulfillment and meaning, through a profound understanding of the interaction between your psychological and spiritual natures. While conventional success can deplete you, authentic success only fills you up.
Are you self-critical, hard on yourself, and constantly trying to “fix” whatever you think is wrong with you? Perhaps you have tried all kinds of different personal growth techniques and spiritual practices in the hope of solving all your problems. This cycle can be exhausting and never-ending, because there will always be something to improve about yourself, from that mindset. Sydney Banks’ teachings can help you to see how your humanness is normal and not something that needs fixing: as a spiritual person, you don’t need to change or eradicate your humanness! Seeing yourself as normal allows you to love and accept yourself exactly as you are—warts and all. Adopting this perspective naturally brings out the best in you and helps to find peace with your personality. Self-love and self-acceptance is your natural state, and any disconnection from your true nature is only temporary. What a relief!
One of the first areas people often experience profound transformation from the teachings of Sydney Banks is in their relationships, both personal and professional. While it often seems like another person’s irritation, anger, indifference, insensitivity, rudeness, etc., directly affects your experience, in reality your disturbance is a product of your own individual thinking. By making someone else responsible for how you feel, that person automatically becomes the cause of your suffering. Once you understand that you always have a place of well-being inside, independent of another’s behavior, it is easier to maintain equanimity through their changing moods and behaviors. Romantically, you may experience deeper love and intimacy with your partner, but the teachings benefit all relationships. This awareness supports more authentic connection and expression, while facilitating greater understanding, improved communication, reduced reactivity, more acceptance of self and others, and improved ability to work out differences and find common ground. Best of all, just one person shifting in a relationship is enough to transform it.
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jeanne monteiro
02.01.2019 at 10:35Another “soul-ful” read. I am so appreciative that I am able to connect with you and your gentle pointers, all the way from here. And most importantly, I am grateful that I am finally discovering how to connect with who I really am. Thank you, Rohini. <3
Rohini
07.01.2019 at 16:20Dear Jeanne,
So glad you are enjoying my posts and they are opening your eyes to seeing all of who you are! Sending you love! Rohini