Do You Try To Be A Bomb Disposal Expert With Your Partner’s Upset?
Angus used to feel like he was trying to defuse a bomb with oven mitts on when I was upset. He didn’t realize that his job was not to fix my problems. He thought he couldn’t be happy if I wasn’t happy. And the more he tried to make me happy the more upset I became. Now Angus and I both know that happiness comes from within. He realizes that no matter how emotional I get, I will eventually stabilize. And I have learned to not trust my low mood thinking. I am skeptical of it so I don’t get caught up in it the way I used to. No more hours or days of sobbing on the bed for me, and now Angus doesn’t feel like he has to be an EOD expert in order to live with me.
Angus & Rohini Ross are “the Rewilders”. They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by opening them up to their innate vitality and resilience. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples intensives that rewild relationships back to their natural state of love. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1), and they are co-founders of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can also subscribe to Rohini’s weekly blog that includes their weekly Vlog on her website, rohiniross.com.