You Don't Have To Be Afraid of Your Negative Thinking | Rohini Ross
You Don't Have To Be Afraid of Your Negative Thinking

You Don’t Have To Be Afraid of Your Negative Thinking

There is a well known Henry Ford quote, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.” This statement tends to lead people in the direction of positive thinking and create superstition about negative thoughts. I speak with people who work very hard at trying to maintain their positive thinking. It can take a lot of time and effort. I used to be one of those people. I spent lots of time trying to manage and fix my thinking and it never ultimately worked. I was never able to banish my negative thought. This led me to feel constantly disappointed in myself whenever I was in a low mood or a negative mindset. I felt like I was doing something wrong.


Now I see all of the work I did to banish and reframe my negative thinking was like me getting a cold and working really hard to get rid of the cold as if it was a terrible thing by taking numerous supplements and doing all kinds of healing strategies and techniques. And then heal from the cold after five days instead of three because I didn’t let myself to relax and allow the intelligence within my body to do what it knows to do.


If I don’t see the cold as a problem and understand my symptoms are a reflection of the health of my body, I feel at peace and relaxed in the experience of my body healing itself. I may get an inner prompting to eat something or take something, but that is very different than my focused intent on trying to get rid of my cold.


Negative thoughts and negative feelings are part of our innate mental health. They give us feedback about our state of mind. They are not anything to worry about. They don’t mean anything about you. They don’t need to be fixed. There is nothing to heal. They are part of the normal, healthy human mental and emotional ecosystem. They do not get in the way of our success. They do not have any intrinsic power to jinx us and mess up our lives. The power is always within us and not in the content of our thinking.


If you become less fascinated by the content of all of your thoughts and more interested in the infinite source from which all thoughts arise, it becomes clear that there is nothing to fear when it comes to our thoughts and our feelings. They all arise from the same formless source of infinite potential that is your true nature. No thought can take that away from you. No matter how much you run with and engage with your negative thinking you cannot damage or destroy who you are.


What I find when I see my thoughts for what they are, ephemeral and always changing, I am much less concerned about the content of them especially when it is dark. I am less likely to make more meaning up like my negative thinking means something about me, my future, or what I am capable of. It doesn’t matter if the thoughts are memories or future imagining. They are not rooted in anything.


So what about creation? Don’t I need to believe I can to get something done?


I don’t think so. The energy of creation is what thoughts are made of it is not the content of the thoughts. I have done plenty of things in my life that I did not believe myself capable of doing, but there was a forward movement within me that carried me forward. I didn’t believe I could finish my thesis and I did. Not only did I complete it I was amazed by what I wrote. I didn’t think I could write a weekly blog, but I do. I didn’t think I could stay married, but I am. I didn’t think I could have a business I love that makes money but I do. If I had spent my time trying to fix my thinking and working on my beliefs none of this would probably have happened. For two reasons:


  1. I wouldn’t have any energy left over to get anything done.

  3. My trying to change or fix my negative thoughts only makes them look more real and problematic. It gives them a power they do not have on their own.


Sometimes you will feel positive. Sometimes you will feel negative. Sometimes you will feel confident and other times you will feel insecure. That doesn’t matter. Your thoughts and feelings are like the weather. They come and they go. Your true nature, the divine intelligence that is behind all things doesn’t care how you feel or what you think. It just wants to express. The dandelion will find a crack and grow through concrete. The city of Chernobyl has been taken over by the forest even with the radioactivity. The life force finds a way to express. The more you allow it and don’t worry about managing yourself the more space there is for your impersonal nature to come through.


It doesn’t matter whether you think you can or you can’t. Do what you want to do. Create what you are inspired to create. Allow your unique expression to be seen in the world in whatever form you are inspired express it. You are the field of infinite possibility. Look in that direction and allow your heart to sing whatever song comes through.


Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their full potential. She is a transformative coach, leadership consultant, regular blogger for Thrive Global, and author of the short-read Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) available on Amazon. You can get her free ebook Relationships here. Rohini currently has an international coaching and consulting practice based in Los Angeles helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they can experience greater levels of well-being, resiliency, and success. She is also the founder of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality, and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can follow Rohini on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram, and watch her Vlogs with her husband. To learn more about her work go to her website,


  • Jeanne Monteiro

    14.01.2019 at 12:42 Reply

    Thank you, again, Rohini for your soothing words and beautiful pointers. I have learned to create more space for all the parts of ME, and I now know that my moods and dark days are not who I am. However, I often feel guilty because of the impact they may have on those I most love . When I am overwhelmed and confused, I am often unkind to my children or unfair to my husband. It is the thought of how my moods may negatively affect them that make me feel sad and frustrated about them. Then, I am back in the loop of feeling bad about my ” not so positive parts. “

    • Rohini

      20.01.2019 at 09:48 Reply

      Hi Jeanne,

      Thanks so much for sharing. I encourage you to see the wellbeing and resilience of those you love. You are always doing the best you can. See if you can see that and see your innocence. You can only do your best, and when you rebalance you can rebuild rapport. You are learning, as we all are. Your ability to be kind and compassionate with yourself and to reconnect and apologize when necessary is great modeling. Remember you are not responsible for others experience. You can’t damage them. They are resilient and bounce back just like you do. That is the health. The ability to bounce back. Perfection is not required. Sending you love, Rohini

Post a Comment