He Said, She Said: You’re Not Listening!
Angus and I have different tempos of communication. I tend to be more rapid fire, whereas Angus likes to take his time assimilating information. This can result in large chunks of information never making into Angus’s conscious awareness. It often goes unnoticed until a ball gets dropped. When this happens, Angus and I can get ensconced in our separate realities with me thinking Angus doesn’t listen to me, and Angus thinking I am calling him stupid.
When we commit to our separate realities rather than trying to understand each other, communication breaks down and goodwill melts away. But, when we realize that we each see the world and life through the projection of our own thinking, we often get curious about each other’s reality. This not only makes it easier to find common ground in our relationship, but it also can be quite entertaining and enlightening to see a fresh, new perspective, and remind both of us of the infinite possibilities available in both thought and experience.
Angus and Rohini are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. Rohini and Angus are offering a Relationship Essentials Workshop November 11-12, 2017 in Topanga, CA for more information click here.