He Said, She Said: Eliminating Relationship Baggage
Angus recalls the time I barricaded him out of our apartment, and then my therapist told me I had abandonment issues. Angus thought he brought his own baggage to our relationship as well. We both accepted these limitations as part of who we were and resigned ourselves to a challenging relationship because of them.
We are both so grateful to the understanding of the principles that helps us see that we don’t have issues. All we have is thought in the moment that temporarily gets in the way of us experiencing peace of mind and our true loving nature. It was so freeing to me to see this, and it allowed me to be all in, in our relationship. This is what allowed our relationship to flourish. I had been holding back because I was afraid. I was constantly having my feelings hurt.
This understanding allowed me to experience my resilience and significantly reduced the amount of time I took things personally. I am no longer destabilized easily. I have plenty of room for Angus’s humanness and my own. I love the freedom of being able to enjoy my humanness without feeling impaired by it. If you would like to learn more about this and tap into the potential of you enjoying relationships more, join us for our relationship workshop April 28-29 in Topanga.
Rohini and Angus are both coaches. They work with individuals, leaders, and organizations to increase performance and success. They also love working with couples and helping them reduce conflict and discord so they can experience more love and harmony in their relationships. They co-facilitate individualized three-day couples intensives that support the deepening of connection and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. Rohini is the author of Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) You can also subscribe to her weekly blog on her website, rohiniross.com.