Holding Reality Lightly and Embracing “I Am”
Sitting here filled with gratitude after the completion of the last weekend of the 6-month program of the Soul-Centered Series. Elsie Spittle was this month’s guest speaker. She was definitely the icing on an already very delicious cake. There was such a beautiful feeling of depth and peace that the group fell into over the course of the weekend.
The participants in the group were the heart of the program. I appreciate how generously and openly they contributed to the experience. I loved how much they appreciated the beingness of the series. There was nothing to do and nowhere to get to, just an opportunity to deepen in understanding. All of the transformations experienced flowed from there.
I am so grateful for the understanding of the Principles and how it points to the divine formless intelligence behind life and its interaction with the form of human experience. There are as many ways to point toward truth as there are people looking and the Principles understanding is a way that has deeply touched my heart.
There are profound experiences in my life where I dropped out of thought and fell into an exquisite experience of unconditional love, some might call it a meditative or a non-dual state, and felt just oneness. These experiences are beautiful and profound, but I would see them as peak moments. They felt different and separate from my ordinary life. What the Principles understanding helps me to see is how we all naturally slip out of thought and into this state of presence and being. There is nothing special about it. It is our natural design.
The constant dance between formless and form is the continuous rebirth of experience moment-to-moment. Reality may look and feel seamless, but it is constantly being created.
As neuroscientist David Eagleman writes in The Brain: The Story of You:
“If you could perceive reality as it really is, you would be shocked by its colorless, odorless, tasteless silence. Outside your brain, there is just energy and matter. Over millions of years of evolution, the human brain has become adept at turning this energy and matter into a rich sensory experience of being in the world.”
Seeing that our experience is created internally, makes it easier to identify less with the form of what I see and experience. Recognizing that thoughts and concepts are created and dropped allows me to hold them more loosely. There is freedom in this. I have the image of a lego construction that is constantly being deconstructed and reconstructed again. Usually in the same way, but it doesn’t need to be. There are times when reality falls apart and reappears in a new way. Those are the times when I have an infusion of fresh thought and see something new.
We all arrive at a new perspective through realization. An example of this for me was recognizing that my husband Angus was suffering when he is angry. This had never occurred to me previously. I was so caught up in judging his behavior and feeling hurt. Then I had an insight and realized his behavior was a reflection of his suffering. This allowed me to see his behavior in a whole new way. As a result, I felt compassion instead of hurt. It was natural to love instead of judge. And, I could also see my capacity to behave in the same way. It was freeing and humbling.
Seeing that experience is created and getting a feeling for the innate potential and possibility behind the creation of experience is uplifting and liberating. Seeing reality is not fixed has me hold it more lightly, and in that lighter feeling, I have more openness to live in the not knowing and to embrace new perspectives.
This is so practical and down to earth. Seeing the power of thought and the nature of thought to change opens up possibilities for each one of us to not be defined by labels or misunderstandings about ourselves. We can let go of the inclinations to put ourselves in fixed boxes of: I am this or I am that, and instead, rest in the I amness of who we are.
As Elsie said this past weekend, come back to the simplicity of I am. That is enough. You are enough. Anything else is an add on that will come and go. Seeing the power we have to create what comes and goes is what allows us to be less consumed and compelled by our creations. It makes it easier for us to enjoy the creative power of who we are and be grateful for the fact that experience is created no matter what the content of that experience is.
Rohini Ross is passionate about helping people wake up to their full potential. She is a transformative coach, leadership consultant, a regular blogger for Thrive Global, and author of the short-read Marriage (The Soul-Centered Series Book 1) available on Amazon. You can get her free ebook Relationships here. Rohini currently has an international coaching and consulting practice based in Los Angeles helping individuals, couples, and professionals embrace all of who they are so they can experience greater levels of well-being, resiliency, and success. She is also the founder of The Soul-Centered Series: Psychology, Spirituality, and the Teachings of Sydney Banks. You can follow Rohini on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, and watch her Vlogs with her husband. To learn more about her work go to her website, rohiniross.com.

Christine Heath & Judy Sedgeman – Spirituality and Resilience
When you no longer give authority to the fear-based thoughts in your consciousness, all you are left with is happiness. Through the teachings of Sydney Banks, you can see how your psychological functioning works, which makes you less compelled to follow those thoughts that do not serve you. Becoming more aware of the wholeness and integration of both your human and spiritual natures helps to ground you in the unchanging essence of who you are, and ride out the ups and downs of your emotional experience more gracefully. Accepting the normalcy of your humanness will naturally reduce your anxiety and fear and enhance your joy and happiness in each moment. By placing less pressure on yourself to feel a certain way or be hung up on self-improvement, you may find that low moods do not derail or debilitate you; instead, you will become much more attuned to your innate wellbeing and peace of mind and experience more happiness as a result.
Greater psychological freedom is the gift that keeps on giving. How grateful would you feel if you no longer had to listen to your negative, self-punishing and painful inner narrative, day in and day out? Understanding the role of thought and recognizing how it creates your feelings of insecurity and self-doubt is truly liberating! You will be better able to hear and heed your inner wisdom and become less driven by the noisy thoughts of fear and constriction. As an ongoing practice, this allows you to more fully experience your resilience and reach a greater sense of clarity about how you want to move forward in your life. As a result, you can live in a way that feels authentic and true in every area, including your career, family, home, creative expression, play, relationships and overall well-being.
Your ability to enjoy life comes from being present in the moment rather than caught up in habitual, negative thoughts that take you out of the Now. Sydney Banks’ wisdom supports you in becoming aware of how you get seduced by your limited personal thinking and thus, create a painful reality of misunderstanding, fear and restriction. When you recognize how and why this happens, you can step free of the pattern. This understanding assists you to dismiss unhelpful thoughts and not take them seriously. Unlike traditional self-help or therapy, experiencing more psychological freedom and enjoyment does not rely on techniques. There are no magic bullets on the path of well-being. All you need to do is follow an internal compass that points to the truth of who you really are—beyond transient thoughts to your unchanging, formless essence.
In our culture, success is often associated with hard work and narrowly defined as material gain. However, authentic success, as shared by Sydney Banks, includes such intangibles as happiness, well-being, love, joy, compassion, and peace of mind that are innate in each one of us, along with outward goals and achievements. It honors the whole person in all walks of life, whether you are a professional, leader, executive, solopreneur, employee, mother, teacher or student. From this knowing and experience, you can access the infinite wellspring of love that is your essence, then share your gifts with the world from a place of fulfillment and meaning, through a profound understanding of the interaction between your psychological and spiritual natures. While conventional success can deplete you, authentic success only fills you up.
Are you self-critical, hard on yourself, and constantly trying to “fix” whatever you think is wrong with you? Perhaps you have tried all kinds of different personal growth techniques and spiritual practices in the hope of solving all your problems. This cycle can be exhausting and never-ending, because there will always be something to improve about yourself, from that mindset. Sydney Banks’ teachings can help you to see how your humanness is normal and not something that needs fixing: as a spiritual person, you don’t need to change or eradicate your humanness! Seeing yourself as normal allows you to love and accept yourself exactly as you are—warts and all. Adopting this perspective naturally brings out the best in you and helps to find peace with your personality. Self-love and self-acceptance is your natural state, and any disconnection from your true nature is only temporary. What a relief!
One of the first areas people often experience profound transformation from the teachings of Sydney Banks is in their relationships, both personal and professional. While it often seems like another person’s irritation, anger, indifference, insensitivity, rudeness, etc., directly affects your experience, in reality your disturbance is a product of your own individual thinking. By making someone else responsible for how you feel, that person automatically becomes the cause of your suffering. Once you understand that you always have a place of well-being inside, independent of another’s behavior, it is easier to maintain equanimity through their changing moods and behaviors. Romantically, you may experience deeper love and intimacy with your partner, but the teachings benefit all relationships. This awareness supports more authentic connection and expression, while facilitating greater understanding, improved communication, reduced reactivity, more acceptance of self and others, and improved ability to work out differences and find common ground. Best of all, just one person shifting in a relationship is enough to transform it.
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Gretchen Blais
01.04.2019 at 10:27Thanks Rohini, To remember when someone is upset, they a e suffering is freedom. I don’t need to know what the suffering is about but just to realize they are, in that moment, suffering. It is natural for me to turn towards compassion when I realize they are suffering and in the state of compassion I can hear deeper and maintain my curiosity. Thanks…
On my computer, the request for my name and email address does not show up until I get an error message and then poke around for something I am suppose to do. Don’t know if others are having that problem.
Rohini
02.04.2019 at 15:32Hi Gretchen,
Thank you for sharing your experience. And also thanks for letting me know about the technical issues. I will look into it.
Love, Rohini
Elaine
03.04.2019 at 09:22Nice reminder that we are already enough. Thank-you!
Rohini
04.04.2019 at 11:08Thank you for sharing!
Jeanne monteiro
13.04.2019 at 03:53I always enjoy what you share, Rohini. It is food for the soul. Thank you.
Rohini
15.04.2019 at 17:22Thank so much for letting me know Jeanne! So appreciate you sharing with me!