Love Grows the Bottom Line
I am getting more opportunities to provide coaching and trainings for corporations. This makes me reflect fondly on how I was first exposed to running and growing a business and developing employees. Like most things in my life it was a sink or swim approach to learning. There were three of us. All therapists with no formal business training between us. We took over the leadership of a small behavioural health company with locations across the country. The company was in crisis and at the brink of bankruptcy. There was overwhelming debt from the previous leadership team investing in the development and advertising of a product that did not work out, and an immediate need to stop the cash flow hemorrhage.
In spite of our lack of experience, we felt called to take the reigns, under the mentorship of a very kind and generous board member. We had families in the program who were in process with clinicians. It was a no brainer. We needed to continue to serve them. They were counting on us.
What did we know at the time? We knew how to help families get along better. We knew how to help parents experience less stress and anxiety independent of their child’s behavior. We knew how to teach parents how to connect to their teens in a way that would support them with feeling loved unconditionally, even when they were not willing to conform with boundaries and rules. We knew to how to relate to adolescents without judgment and with compassion. We knew how to develop relationships of trust and respect. We knew how to listen deeply and see the innate health that is not always obvious and often hidden behind unhealthy coping mechanisms. We understood that empathy, compassion, and acceptance draw out the wisdom in another human being so they can see more clearly and make decisions out of clarity rather than fear. We knew that rapport, trust, and unconditional acceptance are the foundation for healing and growth.
When we were successful with teaching what we knew, families healed and flourished. They learned that we all have the capacity to experience innate well being independent of our circumstances. They could see that their natural state is to be relaxed, open-hearted, and experiencing feelings of love, joy, compassion, and peace. They recognized that the only thing that could get in the way of their peace and equanimity was their limited, anxious thoughts. Once they understood this, it was easier for them not to take their fearful thinking so seriously and be less scared by it. As a result, they would suffer less, do less damage to each other, and stabilize more quickly when they did get upset. They would be more open, and new fresh insights and thoughts would occur to them about how to address the challenges their child was having. We knew how to teach this to families with adolescents or young adults struggling in all kinds of ways, but what did this have to do with business? Luckily for us — everything!
What we found out is that the same principles that work with families work in business too. We didn’t have the luxury of money to solve our problems, but we had teams of extraordinary clinicians who had the heart to continue to serve even with the fiscal uncertainties we struggled with. We knew if we made them and their ability to connect with their internal resilience and peace of mind a priority, then they would not only love their work, but they would also bring all of their wisdom to the families they served.
We assumed the money would take care of itself, by delivering the best clinical results possible. What we focused on was empowering and supporting our clinicians. We allowed them to be human, be vulnerable, and to show up to work as themselves. We supported them with understanding how they can experience more of their true nature, and this turned out to be the best investment we could have ever made. The results were extraordinary in terms of clinical successes and clinician happiness. This, of course, supported the company’s financial success and allowed us to reach our goals of profitability and result in a favorable sale.
What this taught me was that the discriminating factor in the success of a company is not producing more by paying less. The discriminating factor of the success of an organization is unleashing the unlimited potential available within each individual who makes up the organization. By nurturing everyone’s capacity to experience their well being and tap into their innate resilience, astonishing results occur.
This doesn’t happen from a mental level strategic plan or monetary bonus plan. The real magic happens in an environment that allows work to be a human experience where we get to show up as all of ourselves and be supported and loved as we grow and learn. It turns out that a loving, nurturing environment doesn’t only make families function better, but it also allows all humans to perform their best and live into their potential in any organizational structure. Love grows the bottom line.

Christine Heath & Judy Sedgeman – Spirituality and Resilience
When you no longer give authority to the fear-based thoughts in your consciousness, all you are left with is happiness. Through the teachings of Sydney Banks, you can see how your psychological functioning works, which makes you less compelled to follow those thoughts that do not serve you. Becoming more aware of the wholeness and integration of both your human and spiritual natures helps to ground you in the unchanging essence of who you are, and ride out the ups and downs of your emotional experience more gracefully. Accepting the normalcy of your humanness will naturally reduce your anxiety and fear and enhance your joy and happiness in each moment. By placing less pressure on yourself to feel a certain way or be hung up on self-improvement, you may find that low moods do not derail or debilitate you; instead, you will become much more attuned to your innate wellbeing and peace of mind and experience more happiness as a result.
Greater psychological freedom is the gift that keeps on giving. How grateful would you feel if you no longer had to listen to your negative, self-punishing and painful inner narrative, day in and day out? Understanding the role of thought and recognizing how it creates your feelings of insecurity and self-doubt is truly liberating! You will be better able to hear and heed your inner wisdom and become less driven by the noisy thoughts of fear and constriction. As an ongoing practice, this allows you to more fully experience your resilience and reach a greater sense of clarity about how you want to move forward in your life. As a result, you can live in a way that feels authentic and true in every area, including your career, family, home, creative expression, play, relationships and overall well-being.
Your ability to enjoy life comes from being present in the moment rather than caught up in habitual, negative thoughts that take you out of the Now. Sydney Banks’ wisdom supports you in becoming aware of how you get seduced by your limited personal thinking and thus, create a painful reality of misunderstanding, fear and restriction. When you recognize how and why this happens, you can step free of the pattern. This understanding assists you to dismiss unhelpful thoughts and not take them seriously. Unlike traditional self-help or therapy, experiencing more psychological freedom and enjoyment does not rely on techniques. There are no magic bullets on the path of well-being. All you need to do is follow an internal compass that points to the truth of who you really are—beyond transient thoughts to your unchanging, formless essence.
In our culture, success is often associated with hard work and narrowly defined as material gain. However, authentic success, as shared by Sydney Banks, includes such intangibles as happiness, well-being, love, joy, compassion, and peace of mind that are innate in each one of us, along with outward goals and achievements. It honors the whole person in all walks of life, whether you are a professional, leader, executive, solopreneur, employee, mother, teacher or student. From this knowing and experience, you can access the infinite wellspring of love that is your essence, then share your gifts with the world from a place of fulfillment and meaning, through a profound understanding of the interaction between your psychological and spiritual natures. While conventional success can deplete you, authentic success only fills you up.
Are you self-critical, hard on yourself, and constantly trying to “fix” whatever you think is wrong with you? Perhaps you have tried all kinds of different personal growth techniques and spiritual practices in the hope of solving all your problems. This cycle can be exhausting and never-ending, because there will always be something to improve about yourself, from that mindset. Sydney Banks’ teachings can help you to see how your humanness is normal and not something that needs fixing: as a spiritual person, you don’t need to change or eradicate your humanness! Seeing yourself as normal allows you to love and accept yourself exactly as you are—warts and all. Adopting this perspective naturally brings out the best in you and helps to find peace with your personality. Self-love and self-acceptance is your natural state, and any disconnection from your true nature is only temporary. What a relief!
One of the first areas people often experience profound transformation from the teachings of Sydney Banks is in their relationships, both personal and professional. While it often seems like another person’s irritation, anger, indifference, insensitivity, rudeness, etc., directly affects your experience, in reality your disturbance is a product of your own individual thinking. By making someone else responsible for how you feel, that person automatically becomes the cause of your suffering. Once you understand that you always have a place of well-being inside, independent of another’s behavior, it is easier to maintain equanimity through their changing moods and behaviors. Romantically, you may experience deeper love and intimacy with your partner, but the teachings benefit all relationships. This awareness supports more authentic connection and expression, while facilitating greater understanding, improved communication, reduced reactivity, more acceptance of self and others, and improved ability to work out differences and find common ground. Best of all, just one person shifting in a relationship is enough to transform it.
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