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Resolving Struggles Over Household Chores

We have separate realities around household chores. Angus is "visually sensitive." Rohini likes to leave things out as a reminder to do them. Angus feels like the kitchen sometimes looks like a Salvador Dali nightmare and would rather it be more in the theme of a Renoir. Add teenagers into the mix and feelings around household chores can run high. What we have found helpful to remember is, if you are in a low mood, do not take your thinking seriously. Instead, put the oxygen mask on yourself first.   We do our best not to engage in problem-solving from a low...

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The Game of Taking Things Personally

It is so much easier to not take things personally with someone you aren't close to. The lack of a close relationship helps you to keep your perspective and not make it about you. However, with people that you are close with, it can be hard to see the big picture and not feel hurt by their behavior even over insignificant things like dishes left in the sink. Angus uses a video game metaphor to point to what helps to have more inner stability. When you realize you are the gamer and not the game, it is easier to be...

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My Partner is Driving Me Crazy

My partner is driving me more crazy than usual. This topic has been coming up in Rohini’s coaching conversations. It is something we can both relate to. What we recognize for ourselves is that this is not a reflection of the other person’s behavior, but a reflection of our state of mind. Angus uses the example of my picking my cuticles to illustrate this point. When he is in a low mood it drives him crazy. When he is in a good mood it doesn’t bother him. We share this as a reminder and an invitation to you to look...

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Untamed: A Podcast About Relationships

Enjoy a sneak preview of our upcoming podcast where Angus and I spend an entire season sharing our journey guiding an anonymous, real couple toward their true natures so they can decide what to do regarding their marriage that is on the brink of divorce.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and intimacy they already have. They co-facilitate individualized couples...

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Anger and Taking Things Personally

Angus has a hard start to the day so he wanted a bit of a do-over when answering a question about taking things personally. Rohini can't keep a straight face when he talks about climbing El Capitan without "cling-ons." We hope the take away is that when we take things personally and our feelings get hurt, remember that is a reflection of your state of mind in the moment. Even if you have done something wrong, the feedback doesn't have to be taken personally. It can be received with an open mind and an open heart so that there can...

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Avoiding Conflict In Relationships

Rohini and Angus had one subject that they avoided discussing to avoid conflict in their relationship and maintain the status quo. That subject was racism. However, recently, they have been able to address this subject with each other and move through difficult feelings together. This deeper level of empathy, understanding, and compassion was definitely worth the emotional discomfort of upsetting the status quo.   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and understanding. They work with couples who are...

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Authentic Compassion vs. Spiritual Arrogance

I’ve been dealing with more critical feedback than usual based on recent opinions I’ve shared in my blogs. It has definitely been a learning curve for me to not take the feedback personally and to see the psychological innocence in the people who shared. However, my biggest teacher in this area has been my daughter. She really helped me to see how I was not holding a loving and compassionate space for her when she was upset. In my attempts to be mature and not lose my cool, I would separate myself from her anger. However, my steps of self-care...

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Time For Solidarity

From the ACLU: George Floyd should still be alive today. His tragic killing at the hands of Minneapolis police is a result of the unnecessary force and brutality that has been carried out against Black and Brown people in this country for centuries. It is on all of us to make a change and we can begin by holding the officers responsible for Mr. Floyd's death accountable. The ACLU and the ACLU of Minnesota are calling for a fair, independent, and transparent investigation and we need you with us. This case should be handled by someone the community can trust...

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3P Community Night With Rachel Langer

This month's guest is Rachel Langer.   The principles explain how life works, and there are No Exceptions. Even when it feels like there are, especially when it feels like there are. We are in a unique moment to explore this further in light of the global pandemic and planetary lock-down we are all participating in. There is tremendous comfort in "knowing" there are No Exceptions to how experience is created. So when you are in a blind spot - otherwise known as a bad mood or feeling scared, angry, self-righteous, ashamed, frustrated - know that eventually, you will see it for...

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The Rewilding Experience!

Join us for the FREE Rewilding Experience. A 29-day Journey of Rewilding An Area Of Your Life. Allow yourself to return to more balance and harmony. The program begins April 27 - May 25, 2020. This is our gift to you during this time. Click on the link to learn more: https://www.rewildingyourrelationship.com   Angus & Rohini Ross are "the Rewilders." They love working with couples and helping them to reduce conflict and discord in their relationships by pointing them to their innate wisdom and understanding. They work with couples who are struggling and couples who would like to deepen the love and...

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